"Mom, it's too hard for me to take care of my mother-in-law, my wife and you in the future." In a word, Professor Fudan's son reveals the truth of education.

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The founder of the growth tree, Haidian mother with two children in her arms, read thousands of children's books on the way to accompany her children, and gained more than 3 million mothers' attention and trust.

Housework is a good way to exercise children. Although it is trivial, it can actually exercise children's abilities in all aspects. Most importantly, it can help children live better and more independently in the future.

A few days ago, I saw a speech by Shen Yifei, a professor at Fudan University, in which she mentioned her own experience.

She ate sandwiches at home that day and accidentally dropped them on the floor.

When her son saw it, he came to clean up and amused himself:

"Mom, it's too hard for me to take care of my mother-in-law, my wife and you."

After listening to this, she thought, Wow, our son is so warm that she wants to post a moments.

But when I sent it, I suddenly realized:

Obviously, she dropped something on the ground, but her son acquiesced to come and take the initiative to clean it up, and the whole family didn't feel anything wrong, which was very interesting.

Later, she recalled that she was happy to be both a mother and a wife.

When she got home, no one expected her to do anything, because she had done a good job in dividing her responsibilities:

The old mother assumed the responsibility of feeding

The old father volunteered to be a driver.

The husband's side is mainly responsible for the company of the son, while the study is his own business.

On the other hand, in addition to taking on the limited housework, she can also find time to watch dramas and relax herself.

Mother is in a happy mood, and the family relationship is more harmonious.

Professor Shen Yifei concluded that the most important thing for a mother to do is not to make herself strong and do everything herself, but to make good use of all kinds of resources so that each different resource plate can play its due role.

This paragraph also reminds me of many children around me. They may be taken good care of at ordinary times. Once they are asked to do some housework, the children will complain:

"Why are you ordering me to work again?"

"Why should I do this or that for you?"

"Why are there so many things to do? I still have a lot of homework to do."

What's more, children will make a list of housework and ask their parents for compensation.

Once sweeping the floor and once washing the dishes, the price is clearly marked. If the parents do not pay, the children will not work.

In the eyes of these children, it is not that I should take the initiative to do any housework, but "I will help you with your work".

The meaning behind this is:

This job is what you are supposed to do. I am offering "help" generously, and you should be grateful for it.

Once the child has this "I am helping you" mentality, he is already evading the responsibility of being a family member.

Housework is never about my mother alone.

Professor Shen's speech also reminds me of my former circle of friends.

This former colleague is a relatively clean person, and she takes care of her family in good order. However, there is also a drawback, that is, we often hear husbands and children running over to "report" to her:

"Honey, the kitchen floor is a little dirty."

"Mom, it's time to clean the fridge."

She complained in moments that her husband, who is 40 years old, should take the initiative to clean the dirty floor instead of telling his wife where it is!

There is also a son, who is already in junior high school, and nearly 180 big men are "not alive in their eyes". They count on their mother for everything.

In fact, when ordinary families live, it seems that "who is responsible for housework" should not care too much about it.

However, it can be found that in every bit of housework, what is hidden is each family member's sense of responsibility, but also virtually shaping the three values of children.

If a child lives in an atmosphere in which the whole family shares housework from an early age, he will know that he is also a member of the family and should take the initiative to undertake it.

If parents always think that their child is still young, they are unwilling to let him interfere in the housework.

Even if the father and other elders and relatives agree that housework is the mother's business, the child will take it for granted not to do the housework.

When the child grows up to cultivate his housework ability, the effect will be very poor.

Children who do housework and do not do housework

Lived two lives.

On the Internet, there has been a video of a speech by Wei Shusheng, the "most awesome director of education", which has been impressive so far.

"I will be the Director of Bureau, and starting from tomorrow, we will go back and implement:

All the children in the city have to do housework when they come home, do more when they have time, and do less when they have no time, but can't stop. It takes a minute to do it, and it's even better to do it for half an hour. "

Why?

Because, in his view, a person's top priority is to assume family responsibility and love his parents, not to talk about it, but to take actions to love his parents.

Doing housework is the first step for a child to assume family responsibilities and be grateful to his parents.

Wei Shusheng did the same thing:

From an early age, he asked his son to do his own things.

When he grew up, he and his son went out, one bag, the son grabbed the back, two bags, the son one in each hand, three bags, or the son carried it again and again.

The same kind of education makes his son more and more independent all the way, dividing liberal arts and science, going to college, and choosing a major, taking care of everything on his own.

In fact, studies have long shown that housework can bring a lot of benefits to children:

1. Children who do housework are more organized.

A survey conducted by the Chinese Academy of Education on 20,000 primary school students across the country showed that children who did housework scored 27 times higher than those who did not.

Most of this is due to: housework, as a substantive work, is not only for children to learn to organize and take care of their own survival skills, but also the most approachable practical exercise.

Regardless of the intensity of housework, children first need to understand the norms and rules of labor.

Then it is necessary to refine, list, and summarize the tasks, plan the overall planning method in mind, and then do it step by step.

This series of processes is the best application for children to combine theory with practice. We often say that "dexterity", in fact, the child's hands are skillful, the heart will be more clever.

two。 Children who do housework are happier.

A 20-year study from Harvard University showed that compared with children who did not do housework, the employment rate was 15:1, the crime rate was 1:10, the income of the former was 20% higher, and the marriage was happier.

It is not difficult to understand that when we choose a friend or spouse, we must like to be quick and take care of others.

Those children who reach for food and clothes from an early age are bound to find it difficult to adapt and feel more setbacks.

3. Children who do housework have a strong ability to work together.

The results of the Harvard Grant study in the United States show that:

Family is the prototype of the workplace, let the child fully involved in housework, he can more quickly understand: my individual efforts can promote collective change for the better.

This sense of belonging and honor makes children more capable of teamwork and more reliable.

Children of different ages

Should take on different kinds of housework

Just a few months ago, the Ministry of Education issued a special new regulation.

Since the beginning of school in September this year, the labor class has officially become an independent cou