Introverts do not deserve to have a bullying circle of friends?

1、How would an introvert behave?

Before I turned 25, I never hid in a corner, whether it was a family gathering or a party with friends.

Whenever my family gathered for dinner, I left after eating, either quietly watching TV on the sidelines, or barely talking. The elders ask what to answer, but do not ask, which is zero communication.

This is generally the same when you get together with friends unless they are particularly familiar. If it is the first time to meet, as long as the other party does not speak, almost from beginning to end nothing to say, and every time you want to express something to a stranger, said two or three minutes, put themselves nervous full of red face not to say, the other party did not understand what they want to express.

The general situation will stay at home, and will not run outside, watch anime, read a book, or think about the whole day. Even if friends go out to play, it is recommended not to shop, tired! Rather a person to run five kilometers.

For a long time, it has been felt that this life will not have any highlight moments, after all, if you want to shine, you must become the existence that stands in the spotlight. But this thing is too difficult for an introvert, and it also consumes energy.

Are you in the same boat, you can be in the right place?

But then, as you get closer to 30, you want to change more and more, so you try many, many different things, even to "share the stage".

This time, thousands of words are omitted.

Later, I saw a lot of articles about how introverted people are awesome and how powerful.

The most memorable phrase: introverts can change the world.

Although at that moment complacent a little, after all, they are an introvert, later found that not any introvert can change the world, but anyone has the potential to change the world.

These are two different things, so don't just take the right seat here.

For introverts, although they prefer to stay by themselves, it doesn't mean, they don't have social needs, they just will be more afraid of socializing.

Does that mean that introverts don't deserve to have a great circle of friends? It's not.

2, introverts how to expand their circle of friends

01 Putting socialization on the agenda

The first thing to do is to build yourself a social mindset and treat socializing as something to be done. After all, introverts like to be alone, and dealing with people is a bit difficult, and every time you think about it, it can hold introverts back.

It would be much better to make socializing a task, create an awareness of it in the mind, and then put it on the to-do list.

You can plan to attend a social event once a week, have a weekly dinner or tea with a friend or colleague, take a hike every two weeks, go for a walk outdoors, etc. Slowly make yourself more accustomed to being with people and slowly integrate.

02 Change passive to active

There is a saying that is particularly exciting and suitable for introverts

"You have to quietly work hard, quietly get stronger, and then amaze everyone."

Most introverts are well suited to be experts, and they all prefer to study and research. So introverts can do one thing - get on stage and speak.

Sure, it's not easy, but it's not that hard either.

Why is it hard?

Because introverts are more willing to research, so they can collect and organize their insights and opinions in an area they like or are better at, and then go and do knowledge sharing. Share what you have gained with more people and help more people.

Why is it not easy?

Because standing up on stage and sharing can put a lot of pressure on introverts.

However, if you think that your bravery can help a lot of people, will you somehow have more power and be more willing to break through?

And in this process of output, because of your initiative, you can let more people see you, and then take the initiative to come to you, people will naturally come.

03 Timely recharge

Of course, for introverts to say too many words, or always expose themselves to the crowd, is a rather energy-consuming thing.

So be sure to recharge yourself promptly, the weekly social activities are arranged not too often, and on-stage speech and speaking activities are to pay attention to frequency.

To give yourself enough time to rest, read a book, listen to music, play the piano, drink coffee, laze, and restore energy in time.

04 Establish one-to-one relationships

Introverts are particularly reluctant to become social flowers, in the circle, and deal with people, over time, will feel particularly tired. But introverts can connect deeply with a person and build deep connections.

After a social occasion, or after a speech or speaking engagement, introverts may not be well suited to continue to move around in a crowd, but they generally won't be exhausted if they can just maintain good communication with one person at each social event and follow up and connect after the event.

Every time you ask a friend out, you can also ask just one, which will also make you more relaxed, and this is more conducive to making genuine, chatty friends.

05 Don't be afraid

Finally, don't be afraid, from 0 to 1 is indeed the most difficult, but it is not impossible to start, first, adjust your mindset, be ready, and just start.

Pat yourself on the back and say: I can, and I can do better next time.

Introverts can also have a bullying circle of friends.