I Thought I Knew it All - Until I Didn’t.

Are you a mom in a world of critics? Yeah, me too.

I can’t begin to count the amount of times we, as women, are asked about motherhood. In all its glory. Truthfully, our fate as women does not always fall back on being just a mother; yet, society continues to remind us that that’s just it. Our Fate - and often times these same women find themselves into some sort of mental sink hole solely based on traditional values of not only Motherhood, but also the ability to live up to the expectations of what we assume is a presentable House Wife/Girlfriend/Partner/Primary Parent, etc.

While motherhood can be Heaven in its own hand wrapped bundle of beauty, the question I always personally go back to is, “Is it always glory?”

The results will continue to show us - Absolutely not.

Let’s go through this really quick; say it with me -

Between the messes we can’t keep up with, between the hours and days spent teaching our babies to be the better generation, between the work, the baths, the cooking, the screaming, the homework, the laundry, the internal battle of whether or not we are living up to OTHERS’ expectations..... We lose ourselves.

God forbid, though, we find ourselves again. Through meditation, prayer, hobbies, you name it. We will always be wrong.

That is though, until you realize you’re doing better than you assume you are.

You see, all of these expectations.... they’ll never matter. What matters will continually be the smile on your children’s face. That mess you are so concerned over, it’ll be clean one day, and you’ll miss that constant mess you watched your baby make; because you will miss the smile they had while mindlessly creating it.

You’ll miss the moments you spent choosing to help create that chaos over the time you spent fantasizing over your perfect home.

And you’ll miss it all when you realize you were never fully invested in the moments you prayed, and begged for.

ALL BECAUSE

All because you chose to live for others’ expectations and criticism (maybe even your own) instead of living for the current state of pure joy that you literally created or were called to care for.

You’ll miss it all the moment that you realize.... you literally missed it all.

Don’t

Don’t let parent shaming screw with your gut intuition as a parent.

Don’t let your materialistic mindset distract you from your role as a parent

Don’t let parenthood make you feel like you are only allowed one personality within yourself. (Know your boundaries, though, and be comfortable in them.)

And DON’T muster in social media parenting perfection guide your mentality.

But, DO realize that it’s okay to think you know it all, and accept that you really, and truly don’t. That’s where the beauty does lie, in your humble mindset. Within the grace that’s so damn hard to give yourself, trust me I know it’s hard.

Trust you. Trust your partner. Trust the tribe you have. Trust your intuitive gut.

Trust, and believe.

Because if no one else, I believe in you, and every other parent who thinks they’re in an impossible place.

You are doing great.

You are doing your best.

You are a great parent.

Are you a mom in a world of critics? Yeah, me too. It’s time to stop giving the criticism it’s credit. It’s time to just..... Be a mom, in a world. A world of our own.... happy.