How to raise TOUGH kids!

All you parents, listen up.

Its an age-old adage that we have to "toughen up" our kids for Life. The sentiment behind that is "I want my kids to be able to survive adulthood."🥴 And we DO want our kids to survive adulthood...but teaching them to say every opinion they hold in the name of "being outspoken" or protesting rules solely in the name of "independence" is not helping them toughen up at ALL, but it's helping them "roughen up" for sure. 💔 You are setting them on a quick path of hostility, and excusable behavior for bullying. When you remove the idea of self-control and compassion from a child it does not make them tough, it makes them build walls around themselves because they will always be on the defense.

You want really tough kids? Teach them this:

-To defend the weak even it costs them social clout

-To hold their tongue in a debate if what they are getting ready to say is hurtful because a moment's win in social status is a long-term loss in respect

-To give their time without charging everyone for it or sharing it to social media. Real Volunteerism is dying, and it takes strong people to give themselves away in secret

-Do the right thing even when it's not popular

-To stand by their convictions with peace and grace, because your convictions don't matter if you use them to cut others to pieces

-TO NOT compete. That breeds insecurity, rather teach them to run their own race and cheer for others in theirs.

-To work and save money, start now and instill a work ethic in them as opposed to a continual gifting of wants

-To separate from competitive and toxic people and sit with the underdogs

-To embrace color, because the culture behind our skin colors makes us beautiful and we share more across culture than we will ever admit to each other.

-To be kind. It's never wrong to be kind♥️

Yes, you teach them those things☝️and they will excel at adulthood. You will have seriously tough kids who know how to handle the punches, work the disappointments and get back up when they fall😊 We all remember the bullies on the playground, the kids that were the first to tell us our outfits weren’t in style or became tiny leaders of playground cliques. Remember them? They seemed tough but in reality, they were just rough and hard to be friends with. Now remember the kids who sat with you when you had no one to sit with at lunch? The kids who told the bullies to back off, the kids who didn’t protest when the teacher made you their partner or even the kids who befriended the “weird, smelly, or poor” kids? They seemed odd those kids, they seemed weak because they never attacked anyone but in reality, they were tough because they had the courage to stand out....and they were the best kids to be friends with. Make your kid into that second batch of kids. Don't teach kids to rough and gruff and always on the defense....teach them to play Life on the offense and they'll survive much better that way. Raise some really tough kids parents, we need them!

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