How To Not Be A Miserable Married Guy In The 21st Century

Some guys have all the luck. Then, they find that perfect woman. Other guys swear she doesn’t exist and is like a great white, unicorn.

Television sitcoms like Married With Children used the idea that women will never just let men be happy. People look at the idea that women live longer than men, and have for a long time. Is it because they won’t let us enjoy our lives without interfering, or something else?

To have a clue about this timeless mystery, it’s important to understand women better. What makes them happy? Whether she’s a live-in or a wife, there’s an old saying. HAPPY WIFE, HAPPY LIFE!

Gentlemen, it comes down to the choices you make. And the first choice is the kind of woman you anchor yourself to. Anchor yourself in the right harbor, and it’s paradise. If you pick the wrong one, no matter how attractive that island is, you’re on Hell Island!

Traits To Look For In Women

When picking a woman to share your life with, do you know what the best ones are? Sure, from across the room, none of us is falling in love with their personality. We go goofy-eyed because of their “assets” and what our minds envision they might do with them.

That lasts the night, or the weekend, but then what? Are you going to get into the lather, rinse, repeat cycle? Or, do you want to ditch the grind and the wasted time? If it’s the latter, here are some traits of happy women, and the women who might let you be you, for the most part.

Independence: Are they self-sufficient? Are the women you’re going after happy with their lives and confident in their ability to meet their needs and run their lives? If she’s not in charge of her own life, is she worth the effort, or will she become overly dependent upon you?

Emotionally well grounded: Are her emotions managed, and can she manage the feelings of people around her? If she’s too emotional, she can be a problem and excessively needy. This will put a drain on you or anyone around her. Run, don’t walk, to get away from this one.

Handles solitude: If your mate is happy to be alone, you’re less likely to fight or squabble over how you spend your time. People who are comfortable in solitary situations don’t always need their significant other with them to feel complete.

Has her social outlets: This is a trait that should remind everybody of the robot in Lost in Space. Warning Will Robinson, Warning, Warning, Warning! If she doesn’t have friends, particularly girlfriends, that she can go out with or visit at times, get out. It’s simple, ask yourself, why she doesn’t have any girlfriends.

Confidence Vs. Insecurities: Some people suffer from massive insecurities. Others are alright with their insecurities. Which is she? Insecurities alone can ruin a relationship, and it’s not your fault the person you’re with has them. It’s also not your job to constantly have to validate them to get them over their insecurities.

Everybody wants love, and we aren’t a solitary species. We weren’t meant to be alone. But if you anchor yourself to the wrong person, it can be draining enough that they drag you to the bottom with them. Getting yourself right is important, and finding someone to share your life with who’s dealt with their issues is crucial to a successful romance. Otherwise, you’re going to be that guy who believes she can’t let you be happy, instead of someone who recognizes your buddy's girl is a needy, insecure mess who can’t get along without him.

Otherwise, you should have that divorce attorney your best friend recommends on speed dial.