How to love your spouse the right way

The honeymoon period in any relationship has a shelf life. But does that mean you can't bring back those butterflies of excitement? Absolutely not. Hi viewers, and welcome back to another Bestie video! Whether you’re a newlywed couple or have been married for more than a decade, if you don’t put effort into your marriage, it may start to crumble. Constant stress, a hectic lifestyle, work overload, boredom, lack of communication, and other unexpected issues can create problems. In today’s video, we’ll share the best tips for a successful marriage. From embracing the little things, compromising, and listening to each other, to making your relationship a priority, and more—watch until the end to learn all about them.

One way to keep your marriage strong is to remind your partner that you appreciate them. Over time, that passionate kiss when your partner walks through the door can become a quick peck on the cheek, and even evolve into barely looking up from your computer. While a comfortable routine is normal, it can be dangerous. Studies show that nearly half of men who have cheated say it was due to emotional dissatisfaction rather than sex. When people don’t feel appreciated or connected, they may be vulnerable to someone else’s attention. Do you show your spouse appreciation? Let us know in the comments below!

Practicing honesty, even when it’s difficult, is also important. If you’ve maxed out a credit card and have been hiding the bills, it will likely create trust issues. Infidelity doesn’t only happen in the bedroom; it can also happen with money. Rebuilding trust after lying about finances is tough. And if you’re feeling disconnected from your partner, it’s better to bring it up sooner rather than later. Allowing communication issues to fester may lead to more significant problems, and things may not get better on their own.

Putting your relationship first is essential. Everyone is busy, but if you want your marriage to work, it should come above everything else. Sometimes, this means making tough decisions, like prioritizing your spouse over a job or a hobby. This can even mean placing your relationship above your children, as challenging as that sounds. Children eventually grow up and start their own lives, leaving you with your partner once again. So, in the bigger picture, your marriage should come first.

Embracing the little things can also bring happiness. Simple gestures, like having dinner together or giving a goodbye kiss, can create joy in your relationship. When you cherish these small moments, a sense of happiness will naturally flow. Also, keep things fresh by doing fun, new activities together regularly. Early in a relationship, new experiences create excitement. But as time passes, routines can lead to boredom. Try traveling, exploring new hobbies, or learning something together to keep your bond strong.

Compromise is another key element. Marriage is no longer just about you; it’s about building a family. Choose your battles, knowing some things aren’t worth fighting over. However, when something matters deeply to you, stand firm. Compromise shouldn’t be one-sided; both partners should be flexible but maintain boundaries. Teaching each other to compromise may take time, but it’s worth the effort.

Thinking before you speak is crucial, too. A proverb says, “It is only through words that conflicts begin. It is only through words that people have fun. It is only through words that people gain wealth. So, words should be used sparingly.” When you’re upset, sometimes it’s better to cool off rather than jump into an argument. Occasionally, going to bed angry allows time to reflect. If it’s still an issue in the morning, discuss it then. Once resolved, let it go and move on.

Being humble with your partner is essential. Relationships reveal our weaknesses quickly, and accepting our faults helps build a healthy marriage. Holding an attitude of superiority breeds resentment. If humility is a struggle, try writing down three things your partner does better than you. This exercise can help you stay grounded and respectful. Repeat it as needed.

Always be kind, both to your partner and yourself. Show kindness for the small mistakes, and be gentle with yourself too. Balancing a career, marriage, and family is challenging, but you’re likely doing better than you think. A little kindness goes a long way, and it can improve your mental well-being.

Maintaining a sense of independence is also important. Sometimes, you need time for yourself, free from your spouse. Having time to do what you love independently makes you more willing to do things together later. A successful marriage often includes individual pursuits, like joining a book club or learning a new skill. Re-establishing your sense of self helps you become more content and ready for shared responsibilities.

Avoid taking each other for granted. Comfort in routine can lead to this, so never assume your partner’s love and presence are automatic. Show respect and appreciation regularly; it can make all the difference. Listening is another foundational aspect. Sit down and genuinely listen when issues arise, without immediately jumping to solutions. Simply listening can often resolve issues, as it helps each partner feel heard and valued.

Finally, don’t stop trying. Happiness in a marriage comes in waves, and striving for contentment—a steady state of satisfaction—can help you avoid the pressure to constantly feel thrilled. A continuous commitment to generosity, appreciation, and gratitude builds a strong foundation. Always be flexible, as life inevitably throws surprises. Being adaptable allows you to learn new skills and gain a deeper understanding of each other.

Share household chores fairly. Discuss which tasks each of you dislikes and try to divide them to show consideration. Maintain attraction, even after years together. Plan romantic surprises or thoughtful gestures to keep the spark alive.

These tips can help you lead a happy married life, but remember, choosing the right person from the start is crucial. Watching videos like “8 Questions To Ask Your Partner Before Getting Married” can help you understand each other’s needs before tying the knot.