How much does family influence a person?

In 2019, Hao Lei starred in a feature film called Spring Tide, which tells a story about the conflicts and conflicts between three generations of a family in daily life. When I watched the film, I felt that the director and the screenwriter had a real life, and the characters in the shot clearly looked like their elders in real life. In my observation, many older generations of the family, perhaps out of resentment about her past life, and it may be because of the present life, they often reveal damp coarse gritty temperament, with his own identity dominate the atmosphere of whole family elders, is one of the specific performance have words not said well, must be mixed with irony and suppression of mouth. For example, in "Spring Tide", the family around the table to eat, the granddaughter said that grandma is bad temper, grandma pointed at the child with chopsticks turned to the table guests said: "See? It doesn't matter how nice it is to her. If it's not done well, she'll remember it to you. Did I treat you so badly? Then what are you doing here? You go through it? ! Ah? . You two eat and drink mine, and you expect me to wait on you with a smile? !" There is a plot, grandma reunion, drink and singing great back at night, into the house to pull the granddaughter together singing, mother to the box outside the refrigerator drinks back to the room to drink, then my grandma will attack again, said to her daughter: "jian-bo guo (hero), I'm so happy today, are you see I am happy you happy, right? Ah? I'm sharing my happiness with my granddaughter, and you go every now and then. Don't you think I can tell? Ah? I did a lifetime slave in your guo's home, am I old now to see your face? ! The thing is, I don't owe you guys a Kuo, do I? . It's not that I kneel for you, THAT I kowtow for you, that you're satisfied, right? ! ?" Like this plot in the film no less than four or five, I see the time hand straight pull pants, heart said this family how so talk? What are you doing? Under the same roof, all we do is piss each other off every day? But on second thoughts, some families in this society talk like this, and some have been so vicious for so long that they have forgotten the normal way of communicating. Mentioned above the psychological teacher, said he had seen quite a few people emotionally in deep pain, later because the study and work, living away from home to another environment, the state of the whole people has significantly reduced, it felt like a little head is caught in a plastic bag, because this bag is, as he grows, he even forgot to breathe normally, It wasn't until the hand that tightened the plastic bag disappeared that he realized how pleasant it was to breathe normally. At the end of the film, the hero mother in the hospital, in a hospital bed lethargy, fourth help mother clean the body, and comb good start, then oneself silently walk to the front of the room window, looks outside the glass is hazy night murmured: "good quiet, quiet you the world is quiet, let us stay quietly for a while so if you wake up will scold me..." I think that for many families like the one in the film, it is precisely this kind of quiet that is lacking in their happiness