"before committing suicide, my mother told me not to tell the truth to a psychiatrist.": depression is really not a poor ability to resist frustration.

Will you consult after taking the psychological certificate? no, that's just the beginning.

The love, sight and acceptance of parents are the warmest sunshine on the way of children's life.

A psychological counselor told such a real case.

A 26-year-old man prepared the rope, found a place, and was ready to end his life.

At the last minute, he suddenly remembered what the counselor had said: "remember to give me a call before you hurt yourself."

With what little self-saving instinct he had left, he dialed the number of the counselor.

Luckily, he was saved.

But I want you to know the story behind this.

The man called his mother before he went to a psychiatrist for suicide intervention.

His mother was in a hurry: "what are you doing there?"

Without explanation, he said softly, "I'm going in."

Mother is more urgent: "you must not tell the truth."

No parents do not love their children, including this mother, in her understanding, to see a psychiatrist is a mental problem, it is not good to be known, which will destroy the child.

She loves the child by instinct, but she doesn't know it. Because of her ignorance, she gets the child into the predicament of life several times.

That man is actually a patient with smiling depression.

Because he is always smiling and warm and peaceful, others never believe that he is depressed, but he is very self-saving.

As early as in college, he sensed that something was wrong with him and asked his mother for help many times, expressing his desire to see a psychiatrist.

But have been dissuaded by their mother, college students have "mental illness" how to find a job!

It was not until this time that his mother finally believed that his son needed help.

In fact, it is normal for such a situation not to be understood by the family.

I have a best friend who got depressed and managed to get through it by herself.

Later, she chatted with her own mother: "I really wanted to die every day at that time, but luckily I survived."

Her mother scolded:

"you still have to be depressed. I'll take care of the children after eating and sleeping every day. I'll take care of the children. My aunt will do the housework, and the old man will make money. You just have nothing to do. Just do more work, wash clothes and cook some food."

She was so angry that she didn't talk to her family any more.

Many people do not understand, life is good, how can people be depressed?

In fact, not to mention that others do not understand, it is difficult for people with depression to understand themselves.

Depression is uncontrollable.

It is often said that people who are depressed are too delicate, too hypocritical, and have poor ability to resist pressure.

Really, depression is a kind of disease, just like when people catch a cold, they will be tired and sleepy, which is uncontrollable.

As Churchill said, "the depression in your heart is like a black dog, holding on to me whenever you have a chance."

In 2016, 28-year-old actor Qiao Renliang committed suicide and left the world in an extremely cruel way.

As early as 2010, when he was only 22, he began to show off some symptoms and states of depression: sleeping on sleeping pills and occasionally posting weird Weibo.

For example, he once posted a similar Weibo: "the worm asked me to mummy his body and send it to his brother after his death, with several big words engraved on it: 'take care of your body & the body, because I've been staring at you'."

Come to think of it, after such a long time, he later knew that he was depressed.

However, with his personal strength, he is really completely incapable of fighting depression.

Similarly, he could not understand why he was suffering from depression, so before committing suicide, he always photographed many idols in a handsome and sunny image.

So that in the eyes of outsiders, there was no sign of his death.

Why can't you try to control your emotions?

I can't. I can't control it.

TED had a speech on depression, and the speaker said:

"the opposite of depression is not happiness, but energy.

It's a constant feeling, like you're walking, slipping or tripping, and the ground rushes at you, but it doesn't last half a second, it lasts six months. "

To make matters worse, people with depression try to cover up their helplessness.

The book Don't be afraid of Depression points out:

"one of the characteristics of all people with depression is that they try to hide behind the appearance of 'everything is normal' for as long as possible. Their great self-control and strong will still enable them to fulfill their daily obligations and demands. And leave their illness to themselves."

Therefore, depressed friends may look no different from healthy ones in appearance, and may even laugh more happily.

But in places that no one else can see, their world is like a black-and-white movie, in which they try to struggle and occasionally make a faint "cry for help".

Unfortunately, many relatives and friends of people with depression may not be able to receive their distress signals.

Even, they may be misunderstood as hypocritical, boring, delicate and vexatious.

What depressed people need most is to be "seen".

With regard to depression, Chen Jun, director of the office of the Clinical Research Center of Shanghai Mental Health Center, clearly pointed out:

If it is mild depression, you can take psychological counseling treatment.

However, if it is moderate or severe depression, it must be combined with medication.

But before treatment, or even at the same time, it is most likely to be ignored, but the most important thing is that what people with depression really need is to be seen.

Depression is of course terrible.

But what is even more frightening is that not being understood, this feeling is like a person floating to an isolated island, looking around, can not find a similar, can smile to himself, can give a little hug to the cold self.

China thinks big 2019-20 National Station, ranking top5%, one of the results of the study is on patients with depression.

The survey found that:

The population of depression is larger than expected, and the number of adolescent patients is even more astonishing.

The neglect of patients with depression by the whole society deepens their despair.

Therefore, psychologist Wu Zhihong once said:

"more often, people with depression don't need it.