Because Of Your Wisdom

Have you ever wondered why the female gender is looked upon to be the most tender ones of all?

I'm not talking about just physical touch and what we see right in front of us. No, I’m talking about what we feel within our souls, that warm sensational sense that fills up our bodies. I’m talking about the kind that generates from person to person. The kind that wraps itself around you tight, cradling you with its seduction appeal. Now that right there, is the kind of stimulation only mothers, grandmothers can give off.

Us as woman have been given the prideful gift of mother nature. Which goes straight into effect when nurturing our bundles of joy. We indeed leave our mark on whomever encounters such wonderful, and tender love. The protection of a mother seeps into a child’s being, it grasps around the child’s mind and shows the child what gentleness is like, while remaining firm in who they are.

Growing up I was surround by nothing but powerful woman, they were what you would consider the old school woman. Listen when I tell you the way the five women in my life were brought up, they made sure the same life lessons and advice given to them. Were passed down and embedded into me, oh they made sure of it. One of the main lines my grandmother would tell me would be “Ari, in this world you have to be prepared as much as you are unprepared”. I never understood that at the time when it was being spoken to me. But as I went on through my younger days the encounters I had rather it be within school or my personal life. Would tend to catch me off guard. Then frustration would come over me of course and being young you think the worlds going to end when you are faced with tough situations. However, with all the wisdom that was being instilled in me by the women in my life I too became a wise child myself. I just knew after constant repeats of the life lessons and advice those women gave me. Would come into good use as I enter adulthood and sent into this cold world to face obstacles on my own. They all wanted to make sure I was prepared as much as they could make me, so I understood that line much better. There was a time when I realized I wanted more for my life while still growing into my stages of blossoming. Everyone around me that I had true deep love for started to leave my life as I changed courses in mine. Very unexpected relationship status changes with individuals I would never think would leave my life. As much as those bonds I may have been losing were hurting me, I never was the type to let my emotions show at first. That is because I knew I had to be prepared just as much as I was unprepared. Since we all are put here to grow and take different life paths. Thankful for those words of wisdom from my grandmother I use that saying with everything I set my mind towards and that my heart desires to achieve.

My own mother of course is the main wisdom worker in my life. She is far from the kind of woman that believes anything anyone says without constructing her own thorough investigation herself. The biggest life lesson she has ever given, and I appreciate until the death of me. “Life will always go on, but never allow it to go on without you being apart of it”. She would also say “Live for your now and your future, people will come and go, friends will go, breaks up will occur, new encounters will happen, success and failures will come knocking at my door always”. Long as I remembered life will go on, just to not let it go on without me living in my now.

As I sit here now being 22 years old, I can honestly tell you how that entire saying right there has saved my life. It has allowed me to be reborn without ever having to physically be gone in the first place. You see I have such a big heart maybe bigger than I should allow it to be. But I apply so much love and caring nature behind that big heart of mine you would think I would have been a bit naive. People like me are targets to be taken advantage of when you constantly give out love and positivity to those around you regardless of any circumstances. That is who I am to this day, however in my younger days I never had any limit to how I gave off my own love to others.

I found myself going out my way for individuals who, would never have even considered doing the same for me. This went on for years in my life because I would never want to see another hurt or go without. In fact, I started offering so much of my own caring sensation out to people. I would find myself drained and mentally sick. That is until I watched how in return others, I laid my self on the line for, would do for me in return. Which I can assure you a lot of the times was absolutely nothing. That is when the words of my mother come into to play and I notice I was giving parts of me that should never have been given, this was not honoring my self-worth at all.

Knowing I was raised to be a powerful strong female I started applying those words. I grew levels of confidence in ways no one would think, I became so highly outspoken and turned heads when others spoke with me. This was not always the head turns I would want either, but it made me feel proud because I knew if me being myself and living in my now made others uncomfortable. Then I was doing something right for myself, you see I was not placed here to make the world love me. Instead, I was place here to love myself in this world and for years that was not always easy to do.

But my mother’s words stuck with me as I journeyed on throughout my life. I always envisioned my future being extraordinarily successful and me making a great impact in this society. See this world is a cruel place so staying focus and determined will pay off. I am the go getter my mother raised me to be so when opportunities come knocking. I will never pass up the chance of impacting the world with my greatness. So, her words are on repeat in my head “success and failures will come, but life goes on and I must live in my now for my future”.

I am not only the face of a young woman who does not catch breaks in this world. But my sexuality outcastes me into a group of individuals still some refused to understand. Which is why when I am living in my world, I am not sailing through it without making myself known. Utilizing the voice instilled in my being. In fact, I regain my power, I cannot count on my hands how many times I was ready to give up and throw in the towel when life threw curve balls my way. There have been days I did not recognize myself anymore.

That was the result of me losing sight of what my mother instilled in me with her words. She is a mother that one simple word cannot describe, I am talking about the mother who is there on time, prepared, and backing me every step of the way. She is the reason why after recently I was going through a tough battle for two years of something. The situation was life changing for me and completely stressed my mind out and took my focus off what mattered most… myself and my child. Sad, I know, but I refused to let it consume me and so did my wisdom mother.

She spoke such highly positive refocus words to me throughout the entire two years. Once my storm was coming to an end, she was the reason I continued pushing onward. The reason I am 22 years old with the desires and attitude of striving farther in life everyday happens. Its all because of her and god of course so I appreciate her with all of me. No matter what she may or may not need in this world because she has always been my biggest supporter. I will always be hers; I mean she is such a prominent person in my life, I could tell her no allow me to do this thing on my own. With knowing how my mother is she will still be right along side of me showering me with her support and love as she always has.

I truly can never thank her enough for all she does in my life. To show her exactly how much her nurturing and grooming of me has led the path I am on now. About to be a college grade with my bachelor’s in business and then master’s in clinical psychology. Which in the beginning of my life my only dream was to use my artistic abilities to be known. To show off my amazing writing skills and become a well-known poet/ journalist. But it was her wideness that gave me the courage to leap out on faith and try other career paths and to unlock and discovered how talented I truly am in many aspects of my life.

So, I’ll ask this question again, have you ever wondered why the female gender is looked upon to be the most tender ones of all? Yes, we mold the younger ones into being the faces of our next generations to come. After mothers nurture them and shape them into finding their own uniqueness and paths and watch as they maneuver throughout this world a reflection of a mother’s image only more grounded,