Baby Momma

Baby Mamma dos and don't

Hey ladies my advice is from personal experiences some good, some bad. I have learn these things while dealing with my children father, but also watching other fathers go thru the ringer. I say this not to get anyone hurt or feel obligated to do as I say but to help us all be better educated parents. Ladies here a myth I had to come to grip with if the father doesn't make time to be with you why should your energy be given to him. I have also found out that some fathers not all only pretend to spend time with you to get sex and barely look or talk to the child(ren) and this is not good for you or the child or children in the long run. My children are grown and sometime I still have to talk to their dad(s) just because my children don't want to be disrespectful to him( I taught them no matter how much some one disrespect you don't do it to them) I am here for that. Fathers are human and entitle to error not one parent is perfect far from it but it seem like some try more than others. Here are some things I say let happen it might work for you. Yes let him buy the child(ren) what ever they need no sense in burning your gas to go get it. Yes let him introduce your child(ren) to his other kids they are(half) brothers and sisters. Yes please please tell the child about him but only positive stuff. Let them find out his flaws as they get older don't want to seem like the bad guy or just bitter. Now here is the don't list: Don't let him visit his child(ren) if he is not to take care of his child(ren) or have the best interest of that child(ren). Don't send your child(ren) to him if he is abusive, violent, and overall a bad person or maybe a person who does bad things. Don't ever downplay a father who is trying to show that he wants to spend time with his child(ren). Don't try to use your child(ren) against a good father its a waste of time and energy. Don't ever let your child(ren) see you and the father argue over something that is a waste of energy or time.I never did this don't argue with the dad over him coming to get his child(ren) if he has a girlfriend unless you have learn she is not a good person or treat the child wrong. Never, never keep a child away from a dad who is 100 percent hands on because you two are not together. Ladies if your kid(s) dad want to spend time because he want your kid(s) to see him respecting you let him. This will show your son or daughter on how to treat the opposite sex in a relationship well a good one. Now if the intent is not good doing any of these things don't give him the energy or time because we are grown and we should act so. Don't want this to be a one sided story so gentlemen if this is going on in your world then you should try some of my advice as well. It should work on any parent least I hope it does because one day we all have to grow up and realize its not about the adults but the little people who look at us as mentor, heroes, and just good people. I love that my children love me when I am being mean(as the say) and when I am being loving because I am far from perfect but I not a doormat too. Ladies and Gentlemen this is not advice I am giving to you to see some drama in your life but to help life get a little easier and better between two adults who decide to have child(ren) and be grown to handle their responsibilities. Ladies the whole reason for choosing(or the choice was made for you) to becoming a parent is for your child(ren) to feel love and appreciation from both parents. Parenting is never a one side story but it can be a great experience if parents do or try a little harder on becoming great parents. So parents lets show our children the world is full of crazy people and things but at home it can get better and feel safe as well as love.