A lucky mother has three treasures on her body.

Mothers have more smiles on their faces, learn to speak well, and add a little bit of "lazy" wisdom, which is tantamount to getting the key to good luck.

When I took the children downstairs to play at the weekend, I chatted with a group of mothers.

People go on and on about the difficulty of raising children, but the husband doesn't care.

Among the complaints, a mother laughed but didn't say a word.

Compared with everyone's haggard and resentful, her face was ruddy and high-spirited.

Her mother, who has a good relationship with her family, can't help joking:

"in this group of us, you are the happiest. You don't have to worry about your children, and your husband knows how to help. In our group of mothers, you are the best."

Coincidentally, my best friend is also known as "good luck" mother:

At home, her husband spoils her and her son follows her, not to mention how happy she is.

Later, after observing the lucky mothers around me, I found that almost all of them had three characteristics:

A smile that often hangs on his face

Space exploration technology company CEO and CTO, Tesla CEO, and Elon Musk, chairman of the board of directors of Sun City, said in an interview with the media that what impressed him most was his mother's smile:

"the highest form of maternal love is to give children freedom, which my mother has done very well.

I know she had a hard time when all three of our children were in college, but she never complained and smiled every time I saw her.

Such an attitude is the most precious asset she has given us. "

Hong Lan, a professor at Taiwan Central University, once said:

"Mother is the soul of a family."

In the family, the mother's face, like an atmosphere, wraps the whole family.

And my mother's smile is the most important oxygen in the family.

Yang Di's mother is a mother who goes out of the circle because she likes to laugh.

In Yang Di's memory, her mother always seemed to be happy and smiling.

When he was a child, Yang Di was noisy and often took his classmates home to arrange sketches.

A group of magnificent people came to the house, and if it were someone else, they might have told them to go home with a cold face.

But Yang Di's mother would never show them her face or stop them. Instead, she would peel fruit for everyone and chat with them with a smile.

Because mom doesn't want to be so serious, she thinks it's the most important thing to have fun.

Yang Di's parents, like other parents, will have conflicts and quarrels, but in Yang Di's impression, the parents are in love.

Because parents never make faces at home because of quarrels.

Mother will only secretly hide in the toilet to make a phone call, opened the door is a smiling face.

It can be said that his mother is always smiling in front of him.

Such a smiling mother has a deep influence on Yang Di.

Yang Di said in an interview:

"she taught me that there is nothing to worry about in life, that there is always a way, there is always a way.

To live is to be happy, happy, and laugh. "

A mother who loves to laugh will always bring her children the love and hope of life and the best wealth in the family.

A talking mouth

Someone on Zhihu asked: what's it like to have a mother who can't talk?

An anonymous netizen replied:

"every day is hell, quarrelling almost every day."

For example, when others praise him, his mother is always too modest, and then begins to scold him in front of everyone, which makes him lose face.

Once the light at home was broken, and my mother asked my father to buy a new lamp when he came back from work.

But when Dad bought the wrong model, Mom began to say, Dad:

"you can do even a little wrong, but there's nothing to count on you."

It ended up with a big fight.

Relationship scientist Zhou Fan said:

"whether it's parents to their children or partners, people always think that making each other feel ashamed will make the other person reflect. In fact, self-change takes strength, and guilt kills power the quickest.

The more you judge and condemn others, the more you deprive them of the power to change. "

Language is powerful.

Blame, nag, scold, etc. These words contain amazing attack and destructive power, which will destroy the harmony of the family.

And praise, encourage, appreciate. These words are full of warmth, making the family more warm and harmonious.

I saw a story shared by a boy on Douban.

He said his mother had an advanced skill: lying with her eyes open.

When he was in the fourth grade of primary school, he once did very badly in the exam.

I thought I would be reprimanded by my mother, but my mother looked at his test paper and said:

"although you are really careless, your handwriting is much better, and it can be regarded as an improvement!"

Because he got a compliment, he couldn't help but write better and examine the topic more carefully.

His mother will praise not only him, but also his father.

Because my father is busy at work, he often comes home from work at eight or nine o'clock in the evening.

Most of the time, my mother was in charge of tutoring homework, but later, my father began to take the initiative to take over this "task."

Because every time my father finished tutoring, my mother would say:

"you're still better. I've taught my son a subject he can't remember ten times, but he'll understand if you say it once or twice."

In this sound of "praise", the matter of helping him with his homework fell on his father ever since.

He worries about both father and son in his study, while his mother hardly worries about it.

William James, an American psychologist, said:

"one of the deepest attempts of human nature is to expect to be praised, admired and respected."

In the family, the child wants to hear the affirmation and encouragement of his mother; what the husband wants to hear is his wife's admiration and respect.

Having a mother who can talk well can better adjust the relationship between each other and make life more harmonious.

A lazy hand

I saw a news video.

In Hengyang, Hunan Province, a mother was complained by her son when her son was on holiday:

"I don't know why my mother is so lucky.

My brother and I have to get up early to do our homework and do housework as if it were my mother on holiday. "

Because after her 11-year-old son's holiday, the mother did nothing and slept until more than 10:00 every day, asking her son to urge her again and again to get up and brush her teeth and wash her face.

Not only that, the son has to cook breakfast and cook for his mother.

At the age of 11, he already knows how to cook a lot of dishes.

Because his mother slept late, the 11-year-old boy was too busy by himself and mobilized his brother to do housework.

Do laundry and mop the floor.

Even the husband is very diligent.

Every day when my mother is still sleeping in, the father and son are already busy.

When the mother got up, the father and son were already preparing meals in the kitchen, and the mother became the most idle person in the family.

Mother is the hostess of the house, not a hired nanny, so there is no need to be meticulous and meticulous.

A friend of mine once complained to me that he was too bitter and had to worry about his son, and a husband who, like the emperor, would only let her do this and that.

A friend gave her advice and told her not to be a "good wife and mother" and try nothing for a few days.

When she got home, she began to try to ask her son and husband for help.

At the beginning, the two men in the family were still indifferent.

With more times and time, they get used to it and become more active.

She also relieved a lot, and the family was happy.

The book "A lazy mother is better than a good mother" says:

"the highest level of motherhood is laziness."

A mother who is too diligent, worries about everything and does everything for her will often make her children and husbands selfish, lazy and ungrateful.

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