A “Leave Me Alone, I Don’t Have Time” Can Cost You a Lot.

When parents are the only source of information for their children, things are very simple - there is no one else with such authority. Over time, however, other people appear in the child's life - teachers, friends, the media that will disrupt his ideas about what he has learned at home.

The first reaction is distance, the child will prefer not to talk to the parents, and they will suffer because they will not know what is happening in their children's lives.

Parents always remain the closest people to their children. The important thing is to be with them when they ask us for help. A "leave me alone, I don't have time now" can be charged quite harshly by your child later, so here are some useful tips for successful communication.

We know that they are not always easy, but they are the best way to have a successful relationship with your child:

Be available for your child

• Notice the best times to talk - for example, at bedtime, before dinner, in the car.

• Start the conversation; it will mean for the child that you care about what is going on in his life.

• Find time each week for a one-on-one discussion and avoid scheduling other activities during that time.

• Learn more about your children's interests - for example, music and favorite activities.

• Start the conversation with an exchange of views and be careful not to start with a question

Your child needs to feel that you are listening to him

• When the child talks about his concerns, stop whatever you are doing and listen to him.

• Listen to his point, even if it's hard to hear.

• Let the child complete before coming up with a reaction.

• Repeat what you heard to make sure you understood correctly.

• Answer so that you are heard

• Control your harsh reactions, children will stop communicating if you are angry or defensive.

• Express your opinion, acknowledging that it is okay to disagree.

• Make arguments about who is right. Instead, say, "I know you don't agree with me, but that's what I think."

•  Focus more on your child's feelings than on your conversation.

Remember:

Ask the children what they expect from a conversation, such as advice, to simply listen to them, to help them with a sentimental or other problem.

Children learn by imitation. Most often, they will follow your example in how you react when you are angry, how you solve problems, and how to act in difficult situations.

Talk to your children - be careful! Discuss and do not give sermons, criticisms, or worse threats or say painful things.

Children learn from their own choices. As long as the consequences are not dangerous, you do not have to intervene.

Children can test you by saying only a small part of what bothers them. Listen carefully to each word and encourage them to speak and share the rest of the story.

Being a parent is hard

Listening and communication is the key to a healthy connection between you and your children. We know this can be a challenge, especially as parents face a lot of pressure during the day.

 If you have not been able to communicate with your child for a long time, then it would be a good idea to consider a visit to a psychologist.

Give hugs to your child

5 reasons why you must hug your kid

1. Hugs make your baby smarter

A young child needs different sensory stimuli to develop properly.

Skin contact, touching, hugging, are the most important to develop a healthy brain and a strong body.

In orphanages, children were rarely touched or hugged. In some places they spent between 22 and 23 hours a day sitting in a crib, supported feeding bottles are used to feed them, and human interaction was often eliminated from their care.

These children often have cognitive-developmental problems.

Scientists have found that when orphans receive 20 minutes of human touch a day for 10 weeks, they become smarter and pass tests much more easily.

Of course, not every touch is beneficial: only loving hugs can provide the necessary stimulation for the developing brain.

2. Hugs help children grow

When deprived of physical contact, the bodies of the little ones may stagnate in growth, despite proper nutrition.

Hugs trigger the release of oxytocin, or the hormone of love, which has a strong impact on the body, among other things having the role of stimulating growth.

3. Hugs keep children healthy

As oxytocin levels increase, so does the immune system. Thus, the wounds heal faster, the diseases get harder.

4. Hugs can also stop tantrums

Hugs are good for the baby, especially emotionally. Although many parents are afraid that if they hug their children, they will reward the crying crises, in reality, a hug will calm your child.

Again, the release of oxytocin helps lower the level of cortisol in the blood (stress hormone), and the baby calms down. Later, you can gently rebuke him for his behavior if necessary, but first of all, it is important to calm him down, because he cannot control his emotions in those moments.

5. Hugs will help you build a stronger bond.

Hugs increase confidence, eliminate fears and help build a closer bond between mother or father and child.