5 Things that Postpone Independence

Allowing lectures from your parents as an adult

As long as they think it's normal to sit you down for a lecture, you are still dependent. Somewhere in the back of your mind establishing this boundary isn't worth the trouble. In all honesty, that boundary can save a world of power struggling if you establish it early.

I always knew I would be moving out at 18. It didn't take long before my parent's understood what was changing. My life would no longer be held back by fear, guilt, or discouragement.

Living your life to make others happy

It's important that you don't replace that toxic role with anyone else. It doesn't always stop with your parents, living to please anyone, even a dream friend or amazing man can lead to difficult personal trials. Keeping peace is important- but you have to make your boundaries obvious.

Not Budgeting

It's so easy to rewrite our own priorities, but as someone who did that a lot, I can share that financial wellness should always be at the top. Before concerts, restaraunts, and vacations you should have your bills paid and debt current. Which is easy to do if you start from the beginning. Any amount of debt to catch up on is too much, even $500. If you get a credit card, pay it off every month. Especially if you want that nice house, business space, or car. Those things are not as far off as they seem when you are under 21. maybe if you get good at it, you can get a fancy card that earns you miles or Disney points.

Staying complacent Within A Job

The biggest myth our parents told us was that you had to have every job for a long period of time. That's definitely not true. I quit my job too many times to share. It's no use staying complacent somewhere that you're miserable or that holds you back from dreams. Especially when it's so easy to find a better one with effort; or to start your own business. Nowadays, the world is crawling with online business opportunities. Why don't you find one that fits what you know?

Having No Car or Treating One Badly

Owning a car was the difference in my timeline of moving. I could never have gotten across the country alone to meet my partner without it. However, once I was no longer friends with any mechanics in the area, I ingored my maintenance. Not realizing how important this was until a bald tire popped on the side of the road at 3 AM on a trip back from North Carolina. Growing up with two moms explains not knowing what a bald tire was, but there's no excuse for not getting it checked merely just to spend money elsewhere

Your parents and guardians may have your best interest in mind, but only for the summed up version of you they understand. Only you know what is best for your life and it's possible to ignore others and achieve it.