4 weapons to deal with willful children

Children are at an age when they are growing physically and intellectually. As their physical strength, range of motion, and activity increase, their curiosity and desire to learn grows, and their capricious behavior intensifies.

We have four powerful "weapons" for such children

Too achieve certain goals, most children between the ages of 3 and 8 years old use the following four "weapons".

Weapons spectrum ranking first: crying To achieve their requirements, crying is the most common means of children. And many parents are afraid of their children this trick. Once the child cries, parents immediately surrendered, not only unconditionally meeting the child's requirements, and often "over" to complete the "task".

The second in the spectrum of weapons: begging The child is cute when begging, when he begs his parents to beg for something, few parents can resist his gentle attack.

The third in the list of weapons: stalking The theory of "protracted-war" is all too familiar to the child. He aims to use "grinding" to make parents agree to his demands, and will not stop until the goal is achieved!

The last of the weapons list: gambling pouting, not talking, dropping things, and not eating ...... child gambling time, generally last longer, because the child has mastered the secret of psychological warfare, and impatient parents have to throw up their hands in surrender.

The parent's "response" should only be taken wisely

It is not wise to treat your child's request roughly, and it takes skill to reject your child.

The first thing that parents need to do is to have a good and firm mental state. Do not think that rejecting your child will cause harm, on the contrary, it is the best education for him. To raise a great child, parents must say "no" firmly in the face of his initial unreasonable demands, without the slightest weakness.

The parent can take a step backward. For example, if your child wants something that you can't give him, your mother can say something like this: "This is mom's, I don't need it now, so I can give it to you to play with, but tomorrow you will have to give it back to mom." Then, the next day, you can remind your child: "Baby, give it back to mommy, and tell her later when you want it."

Pre-affirmation Children generally tend to forget pre-agreements, so be sure to set a rule for him, once the child broke the rules will be handled according to the rules. For example, agree with your child that you must get up on time and eat breakfast on time so that you can go to kindergarten on time.

If you get up late, you will have to give up breakfast, because you are responsible for your actions. If your child is late for bed, take his breakfast away and tell him: Sorry, baby, we have an appointment and you can't just break it.

The first thing you should do is not to "suppress" your child's request. The practice of "suppressing first and then praising" will make children think that parents are good "bullies", and thus more and more unreasonable demands, "level" higher and higher, once the parents can not meet his demands, he will Once the parents can not meet his demands, he will produce radical psychology, resulting in unintended consequences. Therefore, to refuse children, must be from one to the end.

"After the war, parents should patiently explain to their children the reasons for their refusal and let them understand the reason for the "no". Rejecting a child without giving him a reason for the rejection will make him feel aggrieved and even produce anxiety, fear, irritability and grief, and despair. Although this explanation may not be understood by the child, it will at least make him understand that there is a reason for his parents to reject him.