4 Tips to Make Your Child More Obedient

Communication is really a technical task, in front of outsiders do not communicate well, we can still say they are introverted social fear.

But in the face of close family members, the inability to do effective communication will make that sense of powerlessness is very deep.

For example, it is easy to make a meal, three invitations four calls can not call the husband, and is watching TV as if you can not hear the children, why do we always seem to speak with little weight?

In the matter of strengthening communication, the husband can forget about it, the children still need to "remedy" a good.

Today, we will talk about how to do and children to communicate effectively.

Not to preach, only to say good hands on behavior operation.

Negative communication may be unconscious

Many times, mom and dad those habitual, unconscious "lecture", "order", "scold", "reprimand", seem to be and children's communication of everyday words.

However, this way of communication not only contains negative emotions, but also causes communication to become increasingly ineffective.

Let's see if you have ever spoken to your child in the following ways.

1. Accusatory tone

"The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing.

|This kind of scolding tone not only hurts the child's self-esteem, but also tends to make the child carry psychological pressure.

2. the tone of obedience

"The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one.

|Nursery Tips: This kind of obedience can easily cause children to be capricious, domineering, and self-centered. In a parenting environment that lacks principles, the child's independence will also be compromised.

3. Overly Disciplined Tone

Child: "Mommy, I want to watch cartoons for a while longer."

Mom: "You've been watching for half an hour, I won't let you watch now!"

|Parenting Tips: Parents who are overly disciplined tend to ignore the nature of their children and demand that they can't do this or that. The child will also feel exhausted and lose the will to communicate with you.

A few basic actions to communicate with your child

Parenting is sometimes a metaphysical science, the truth is that everyone understands, but just can not do.

So this party we do not reason, only to give you some action guidance that can be used immediately, and may allow you to see the results in the process of communication with your child.

1、Eyes to

Focusing on the child.

For a younger child, if you just call out to him behind his back, he may not realize that it is communicating with him.

Look at your child when communicating with him or her, the child can feel our respect for him or her.

Gradually increasing the frequency of this behavior in communication will also benefit the child's own communication development.

Eye-rolling.

Interpreting expressions is also an important part of the communication process. You can usually play the game of making faces with your child.

The first thing you can do is to make a question and show each other expressions, or guess what each other's expressions mean, which can serve as a practice, but also to achieve a closer relationship with your child.

2, mouth to

The easiest way to make your child willing to listen to you well is to consider your child's feelings and needs.

When we are not sure what the child's needs are, we start with human needs.

Take watching TV for example, if instead of forcibly stopping our child from watching TV, we first express our understanding of this desperate desire to watch cartoons, things won't be so bad.

"Mommy knows that you especially want to watch this cartoon before you eat, right?"

"It's a shame to miss such a nice cartoon. However, watching cartoons for too long will break your eyes. Don't spoil our eyes. Come on, let's eat!"

Give the child a step down, followed by gentle but firm enforcement, so that the child can follow the rules without being psychologically offended.

Using expressions that meet human needs, along with your own feelings and thoughts, will be more easily accepted by your child.

3. Heart to

When talking to your child, please don't be inattentive and make the communication with your child the most important thing at the moment.

Talking while looking at your phone, tweeting, or staring at the computer screen ...... Even if your child is close by, this way of communication is like shouting through the air, and no one can pay attention to the content of the conversation.

The actual fact is that you will be able to get a good deal on your own, and you'll be able to get a good deal on your own.

So, try to put down what you are doing before talking to your child.

At the same time, we want to make sure that the child understands what you are expressing, you can ask the child to simply repeat what you said.

"Baby, can you repeat what Mommy just said?"

After the child repeats it, take the child through the action again to make sure the child understands the connection between the words and the action.

Sometimes the child just doesn't really understand what we are saying and is not ignoring you or trying to upset you.

4. Body to

As children get older and become more self-conscious, face-to-face condescending communication can easily create confrontation and make it much more likely that your child will confront you.

The better position should be a 90-degree angle, or parallel, that is, shoulder to shoulder with the child.

You can also talk on your child's shoulder, the child will have the feeling of being physically one with the parent and will be more likely to accept or agree with what we say.

How does the "river roar" come about?

Don't the suggestions for communication actions introduced earlier look pretty simple?

In addition, voice and vocalization are also important in the communication process, which determines whether we can be "heard" or not.

"Being heard" does not mean who is loud or who is yelling.

Effective "being heard" is about making your voice clearer and more natural, not only for children, but also in the workplace.

We will continue to provide you with two tips that you may be able to witness the amazing transformation of your voice from a vague one to a "river lion".

1. One-minute voice training

Before training, take two deep breaths, one for 15 seconds as a standard, slowly take two deep breaths, adjust your breathing and then blow the straw set repeatedly for 30 seconds.

Through this training, it is easier to imagine how your voice is communicated to the other party, so that you can collect and release your voice freely.

The key to blowing the straw set is to exert force in the position below the navel, which is often referred to as the "Dantian".

Practicing the Dantian also exercises abdominal breathing.

2. One-minute vocal training

Even if you don't know how to belly breathe, you can still make a soothing and beautiful sound like belly breathing with the following training method.

It is recommended that you do this training before you open your voice officially.

The most important thing is to communicate with your child from his or her point of view, in addition to skills, more patience.

And truly effective communication is a willing mutual understanding, never a fearful compromise and obedience.

The lesson of communicating well in the face of the people closest to you is worth the effort to learn slowly.

For those of you who make an effort to communicate seriously with your children, give a shout out!