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Why you should embrace failure.

The Fear That Holds Us Back

By franklin coetzeePublished 8 months ago 4 min read

Failure. Just the word can send shivers down our spines. From childhood, we’re conditioned to

avoid it—failing a test means disappointment, losing a game means embarrassment, and a

career setback feels like the end of the road. Society celebrates winners and often shames

losers, making failure something to dread.

But what if we’ve been looking at failure all wrong?

What if failure isn’t the opposite of success but a necessary part of it?

Some of the greatest minds in history—Thomas Edison, J.K. Rowling, Steve Jobs, Michael

Jordan—didn’t just experience failure; they embraced it. They understood that failure is not a

dead end but a detour, a teacher, and sometimes even a blessing in disguise.

So why should *you* embrace failure? Because hidden within every setback is a lesson, a

redirection, or a moment of growth that success alone could never provide.

1. Failure Teaches You What Success Never Can

Success feels good, but failure teaches.

Think about learning to ride a bike. If you never fell, you’d never learn balance. If you never

made mistakes in a relationship, you wouldn’t understand true connection. If you never lost, you

wouldn’t appreciate winning.

- Thomas Edison failed 1,000 times before inventing the lightbulb. When asked how it felt, he

famously said, *“I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The lightbulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”*

- Oprah Winfrey was fired from her first TV job for being "unfit for television."

- Walt Disney was told he "lacked imagination" before creating Mickey Mouse.

Failure forces us to refine our approach, strengthen our resolve, and gain wisdom that smooth

success could never provide.

2. Failure Builds Resilience

Resilience isn’t something you’re born with—it’s built through struggle.

Every time you fail and choose to keep going, you develop mental toughness. The more you

face setbacks, the less they scare you. Instead of seeing failure as a stop sign, you start seeing

it as a stepping stone.

- Michael Jordan, arguably the greatest basketball player of all time, was cut from his high

school team. His response? *"I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost

300 games. Twenty-six times, I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve

failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed."*

Failure doesn’t break you—it forges you.

3. Failure Reveals What Truly Matters

When things go wrong, you’re forced to ask yourself: *How badly do I want this?*

Many people give up at the first sign of failure because they realize their goal wasn’t truly

important to them. But for those who persist, failure acts as a filter—separating fleeting desires

from deep passions.

- J.K. Rowling was a broke, divorced single mother when she wrote *Harry Potter*. Twelve

publishers rejected her manuscript before one finally said yes. Her perseverance came from a

place of deep belief in her story.

Failure strips away illusions and forces you to confront your real motivations.

4. Failure Sparks Innovation

Some of the greatest inventions and breakthroughs came from mistakes.

- Penicillin was discovered because Alexander Fleming noticed mold killing bacteria in a *failed*

experiment.

- Post-it Notes were created from a "failed" adhesive that wasn’t strong enough.

- Chocolate chip cookies were invented when Ruth Wakefield ran out of baker’s chocolate and

improvised.

If you’re not failing, you’re not innovating. The most successful people don’t avoid failure—they

experiment, adjust, and keep pushing boundaries.

5. Failure Makes Success Sweeter

Imagine if everything came easily. Would success feel as rewarding?

The struggle makes the triumph meaningful. The late nights, the rejections, the moments of

doubt—they all make the eventual victory richer.

- Colonel Sanders was 65 years old when he started KFC after his restaurant failed. He was

rejected 1,009 times before finding a partner.

- Steven Spielberg was rejected from film school three times before becoming one of

Hollywood’s greatest directors.

Their success wasn’t just luck—it was earned through persistence.

How to Embrace Failure (Instead of Fearing It)

Now that we know failure is a teacher, how do we shift our mindset?

1. Reframe Failure as Feedback

- Instead of *"I failed,"* ask *"What did I learn?"*

- Every mistake is data that helps you improve.

2. Separate Failure from Identity

- Just because you failed at something doesn’t mean *you* are a failure.

- Your worth isn’t tied to outcomes.

3. Adopt a Growth Mindset

- Carol Dweck’s research shows that people who believe they can improve (growth mindset)

outperform those who think talent is fixed.

4. Surround Yourself with Resilient People

- Success leaves clues. Learn from those who’ve failed and kept going.

5. Take Action Despite Fear

- The only true failure is never trying.

Final Thought: Failure Is Not the End—It’s the Beginning

The next time you fail, don’t retreat—reflect, recalibrate, and rise stronger.

Because the road to success isn’t a straight line. It’s a series of falls, stumbles, and comebacks.

And every time you choose to get back up, you’re one step closer to the life you’re meant to live.

So go ahead—fail boldly, learn deeply, and succeed unconventionally.

Your greatest breakthroughs are waiting on the other side of your fears. 🚀

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