Uncovering secret causality in Life

There is a post on the forum I often go to, where a chef shares his experience and lessons from losing 6 million yuan in opening a restaurant, as well as some food and beverage insights. Those who have some experience in the catering industry in the replies have seen his profound skills, and industry insiders are constantly seeking his advice. But as soon as the post started, there were voices of questioning, and some people kept chasing and cursing, questioning him from various angles, with a strong tendency not to scold but not to give up.

The poster is a friend of mine from Hainan. He is a master Chinese chef and the executive chef of a well-known five-star hotel. Search with his name and you can see that there are many reports about him on the web and various media. I have a basic understanding of his situation. The post is realistic, but when it comes to specific characters, it uses a taboo approach. The baseless and unwavering questioning of those skeptics makes me deeply moved: can't you be more sunny?

All popular forums and even more popular posts are almost always plagued by barking and persistent questioning.

Drops of water reflect an unhealthy social mentality. Of course, a normal society needs to allow different voices to exist. But the general lack of trust and the general unwillingness to speculate with the worst malice will lead to what kind of society we can imagine. The mentality of the people born in various laws will inevitably create a certain social environment.

The "anal suture case" that occurred at Shenzhen Phoenix Hospital in 2010 caused a sensation, when the media and the internet overwhelmingly supported the patient Chen Mo and his wife. After more than a year of the incident and all the dust settled, the facts proved that it was just a farce, and the simple truth after the fog cleared was speechless. It turned out that the entire incident only originated from Chen Mo's dark psychology, that almost paranoid suspicion. What strong evidence, authoritative appraisal results, and a large amount of information about postpartum hemorrhoids that can be easily found online cannot dispel his suspicion. In his view, there were all dark scenes, and everyone conspired to deceive him as a 'vulnerable person'. His mentality, coupled with malicious media hype and the driving force of netizens with the same mindset, has made things that were originally simple and clear confusing. It reminds people of a sentence said by Jia Pingwa: "The ghosts are ferocious, and God is speechless

Before the incident, Chen Mo had a good quality of life and rented a high-end apartment building. After more than a year of litigation, business and jobs were lost, and I was repeatedly forced to move. Now he is renting in the urban-rural fringe of Shenzhen, with only some simple daily necessities at home. My wife suspected of "depression" and committed suicide. In his own words, his life was basically destroyed. Can he just think of what kind of life situation his so dark psychology should evoke?

In 2007, Li Liyun, a pregnant woman in Beijing, was about to give birth. When she was in a critical situation, her husband Xiao Zhijun did not sign the surgery form under any circumstances. He thinks the hospital is trying to harm them. His wife is not sick, she just has a cold. Someone at the scene speculated that he had no money and offered to give him 10000 yuan to sign for his wife to undergo surgery. He still disagreed and later said, "They said they wanted to give me money, they were joking, they were teasing me." Anyway, in his eyes, everyone was untrustworthy and malicious. The final result is the death of both his wife and children, and in the future, he may only be lonely for life.

A few days ago, when I saw An Yiru, a beautiful writer born in the 1980s, responding to many doubts, she downplayed them and calmly faced them: "I think people cannot have the delusion of being persecuted." This sentence is most appropriate for these things. She has a very good mentality, which is why she has the colorful language on the bottom of her pen and the fame in life.

I still remember many years ago, someone once asked a famous female writer, "If your husband divorced you one day, how would you face this matter?" She said, "There is such a day when I will still be grateful for the love he has given me, and grateful for his shelter from the wind and rain for so many years." This sentence deeply moved me. Such a woman with a pure orchid heart, how could God have any reason to disappoint her?

I have struggled at the bottom of society for many years and have seen too many life forms. After so many years of experience, in the process of Contact process with people, some people with good fortune are generally more talkative and willing to trust people; And some people with poor long-term living conditions often find it difficult to think and interact with them in a normal way.

The Prajna Sutra says, 'All kinds of worldly laws are created by the mind.' What kind of mind can induce what kind of living environment. Many people always complain about society and fate, but in fact, many things are caused by their own mentality. A sunny, rational, humble, and grateful heart naturally evokes a living environment full of goodwill, while everywhere one is not afraid to speculate with the worst malice about others, a dark, unhealthy mentality, and what kind of living environment one can imagine. What kind of heart, what kind of fate it evokes, cannot be misplaced for long. Looking back and reflecting on oneself, what kind of heart has the upper hand?

Remembrance: Social events are like the facial makeup of Peking Opera actors. How do you know what kind of face was originally under the heavy ink? Starting from familiar people and events around you can better find the reasons behind each one.