My Untold Reason Why I Want to Fail

"There are a lot of things I've always planned to do but never did them because of the fear of failure."

I want you to travel this journey with me as I explore by biggest reasons for the colossal failures in my life. 

Of all the things I enumerate, my biggest reason why I fail is that, I always stop believing in myself. 

All of us have our personal reasons for being afraid of failure. We dread failure because we were not created for it.

Fear is a basic instinct to preserve us and keep us alive. 

It's an aspect of our subconscious mind. The subconscious mind operates a dual function of survival and efficiency. 

From the beginning, God did not create us to fail but to succeed in service to Him.

We fail in our marriages, in raising our children, in our friendships, in school, in our careers, in our church life - and often with devastating consequences. 

It's no wonder, then, that at one time or another we all have a fear of failure.

This fear of failure happens because we either don't heed our intuition and go blindly in pursuit of unaligned goals or we lose focus, we allow "external events" to affect and offset our attention, commitment and dedication to the end goal.

Every time you give in to the fear of failing, you have missed an opportunity. 

Each one you miss costs you in time and self-esteem. Your talent will lie dormant every time you allow fear to prevent you from getting to your desired goal. It's self-defeating.

Failure - We hide it, deny it, fear it, ignore it, and hate it.

We do everything but accept it. By acceptance, I don't mean resignation and apathy. I mean understanding that failure is a necessary step to success. The man who never made a mistake never did anything.

I enjoy reading about lives of great men. One consistent fact I notice is all successful people experienced failure. In fact, most of them began as failures.

When the great Polish pianist Ignace Paderewski first chose to study the piano, his music teacher told him his hands were much too small to master the keyboard.

When the great Italian tenor Enrico Caruso first applied for instruction, the teacher told him his voice sounded like the wind whistling through the window.

When the great statesman of Victorian England, Benjamin Disraeli, attempted to speak in Parliament for the first time, members hissed him into silence and laughed when he said, "Though I sit down now, the time will come when you will hear me."

Henry Ford forgot to put a reverse gear in his first car.

Thomas Edison, the inventor of the light bulb, famously stated, "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."

The same Edison spent two million dollars on an invention which proved to be of little value.

History is replete with examples of individuals who experienced initial failures before achieving extraordinary success.

His countless experiments, though often unsuccessful, ultimately led to one of the most transformative inventions of all time.

J.K. Rowling, the author of the Harry Potter series, faced numerous rejections from publishers before her books were finally accepted.

Her persistence and belief in her work paid off, transforming her into one of the most successful authors in history.

Steve Jobs, the co-founder of Apple, was fired from his own company early on.

However, he learned from his mistakes, returned to Apple, and revolutionized the technology industry with groundbreaking products like the iPhone and iPad.

Very little comes out right at the first time.

Failures and repeated failures are fingerprints on the road to achievement.

Abraham Lincoln's life could demonstrate that the only time you don't fail is the last time you try something and it works. We can "fail forward" toward success.

ABRAHAM LINCOLN - Biography of a failure:

Difficult childhood

Less than one year formal schooling

Failed in business in 1831

Defeated for legislature 1932

Again failed in business, 1933

Elected to legislature 1934

Fiancee died, 1935

Defeated for Speaker, 1938

Defeated for Elector 1940

Married, wife a burden

Only one of his four sons lived past age 18

Defeated for Congress, 1943

Elected to Congress, 1948

Defeated for Senate, 1955

Defeated for Vice President, 1956

Defeated for Senate, 1958

Elected President, 1960

Accepting failure in the positive sense becomes effective when you believe that the right to fail is as important as the right to succeed.

It took me a very long time to understand this. The key issue is that, whatever is not working for you is working on you till you become the person that it works for.

Failure, often seen as a negative experience, is actually a crucial stepping stone towards major success. It's a powerful teacher, providing invaluable lessons and insights that propel us forward.

When my wife was pregnant with our first child, I needed a job badly. The only job I had was a data entry clerk. I prepared earnestly for just a week and yet failed miserable at the examination.

I wasn't deterred; I was given the chance to try again in two week to polish my typing skills, this I did as if my life depends on it. I came out successful and till date I can type faster than most secretaries.

Firstly, failure forces us out of our comfort zones and the faster you fail the earlier you become successful.

My second job was in sales. I went 10 weeks in a roll without selling anything. I began to ask myself questions. Then, I got to realised that, I had a bad presentation skills. This was my greatest weakness and I decided to fight it till I'm successful.

This made me aware that, failure helps us identify our weaknesses and areas for improvement. 

By analyzing my mistakes, I was able to pinpoint specific skills or knowledge gaps that need attention. This self-awareness empowers us to take targeted actions and enhance our abilities.

The character that failure built in me cannot be harnessed from any other place apart from the negative effects that failure placed on my life.

It taught me how to persevere, to be determined and the importance of a positive mindset. By overcoming obstacles, I developed a stronger sense of self-belief and the ability to bounce back from adversity.

These examples demonstrate that failure is not an end, but rather a detour on the path to success. 

By embracing failure as a learning opportunity, you can also unlock your full potential and achieve remarkable things.