Kindness

Kindness is a very scarce and sacred thing you can give to another person.

In this 3D world we get caught up in ourselves.

‘What do i have to do today?’ ‘What do I need done?’

Or we get caught up in anger.

‘He was so rude!’ ‘I can’t believe she did that?!’

And so on.

We get so wound up in us we all seem to forget every now and then, the other person might be going through something hard.

That man that was rude. Well hes feeling helpless as he watch’s his wife die from cancer.

That lady that you can’t believe did that, well it was the only choice she had due to poverty or due to strict rules.

Sometimes we can be the tough people. Caught up in our grief or limiting circumstances. That we are the ones to lash out. Or judge ourselves

This is by no means justification.

It’s a realization.

A realization that their anger isn’t about us, you or anyone except them. Even if it’s directed at you. If someone’s frustrated about something you did it’s still not about you. That frustrated person is frustrated at the outcome or what follows from that said outcome. Perhaps they have to redo it, the deadline has to be pushed.

And so forth.

Realizing that, that anger and/or frustration isn’t about you allows you to open up compassion for that person or others. Allowing you to create space for them to experience their emotions. This may not show on the surface or in the moment.

However, I can guarantee you they will think about it after the fact. It will soften their once angry wall of emotions. It might not tear it down but it will have a positive effect on them. Because that’s what kindness is. Positivity spreading through hard/ negative times.

That lady that you’re gossiping about, you don’t know she had those limitations. You’re gossiping about it because it makes you feel superior or perhaps it helps you to feel better to judge others because you judged or judge yourself in the same ways.

Most if not all negative things we do, if you look hard enough, do come back around to us and our own traumas, insecurities, and our own criticism of ourselves.

In this situation if kindness was spread instead,

‘Hmm, that decision must of been hard for her to make, perhaps there’s things behind the scenes we just aren’t aware of.’ Opens space for kindness, healing, growth and understanding. Yes gossiping is still there but in more of a positive reflection. Which then will give you the freedom to give yourself that same kindness, that same understanding, healing, compassion and growth that you have given to another. As well as, others.

The ripple effect could be endless inside yourself. Not to mention the ripple to others. If you’re always giving kindness out others will follow. Not all, but enough.

Kindness is talking a man off a ledge and him saying moments or years later that dying wasn’t what he wanted or needed.

Kindness is listening to your friends complain again and again because you know they need to vent. Which gives them space to feel their feelings so they can get the courage to change things. Or maybe not. I can tell you one thing though, your friend appreciates the space you give.

Kindness is health care workers working as hard as they have to save lives in a pandemic because they wanted to. They wanted to sign up for saving lives.

Kindness is letting someone cry for hours and sitting with them while they do it.

Kindness is everywhere. In abundant amounts. Giving kindness ripples through others whether they decide to give or not.

Take a McDonald’s drive through. One person pays for themselves and the person behind them and then 7 others pay for the person behind them. That one person won’t know that 7 other people continued on. That one person did what they did out of pure kindness, pure heart, and helpfulness. Who knows perhaps the 8th person didn’t participate because they didn’t have the money to. Perhaps they’re struggling to make ends met and this one simple act of kindness the 1st person portrayed gave this 8th person a moment of relief. That extremely desperate need to just have a moment to breathe without financial stress hanging over them.

Kindness can have huge effects on people. It can be the ‘be all or end all’ of their day.

I’ve watched a lot of people talk about how a person saved them from jumping off a bridge or how later that evening they had planned to end their lives and so on. That person that talked them down, that they weren’t expecting or that person that said for them to stay a little longer tonight and they fell asleep, or your mom calling you just before your about to do it just because she misses you so much saved lives. Let me repeat this, SAVED. LIVES.

Kindness is such a scarce and sacred thing to give out. Especially, if you arent expecting anything in return.

Kindness saves lives. Kindness gives strength. Kindness let’s others know they aren’t alone in such a lonely dark world that it can be.

I’ll say it again. Kindness SAVES LIVES.

Tell that lady she did a good job. Tell that guy you like his shoes. Tell that child that if they need something you are there for them.

Spread kindness like it’s gold, because when you do it WILL NEVER go wasted.