Is it true that your child must insist on being sent to kindergarten when he or she cries and won't leave?

This is a question from a parent: It's been four weeks since kindergarten started and every morning my child is sent to school in tears, my child is in a state of stress when my alarm clock goes off, but every day after school she is excited and promises to go to school the next day, but the next morning she starts crying again and the cycle keeps on going.

In all my decades of working in early childhood education, I have seen one and only one girl who cried the most "stubbornly" at nursery school, and she cried for four months before finally settling in and loving it. I found out why she cried for so long during a home visit.

No,w generally speaking, the most crying children you see in kindergarten are the ones who cry for about 2 weeks, and with the cooperation of the family, the children adapt to group life smoothly.

It's not just a question of your child's growth, it's a question of whether you know how to educate and love your child.

Your child is not just a member of your family, but ultimately a member of your social family. If your child is to grow up to be a member of society in the future, he will have to leave his family and travel far away from his parents, so don't feel bad that he can't seem to leave you at this time.

I am both an early childhood educator and a mother, and I understand the psychology of being a mother. When a child cries, the mother's heart feels as if it is being torn apart, always thinking: the child does not want to go to kindergarten, such a cry, I ignore him is not too cruel, is it not a negative impact on the child's psychology? Will the child's body be damaged by crying?

The child is a piece of "meat" that falls off the mother's body, mother and child are linked, but you must be firm in your mind: the child is not yours alone, you are responsible for the child's future, you can not take care of the child for life, then at this moment you must be Be "ruthless"!

We often encounter this type of child in our work, every morning, when they go to kindergarten ,nears very reluctant to leave their parents, very reluctant to go to kindergarten, crying and crying for three or five minutes after a day in kindergarten spent happily.

It is very normal for children to arrive in a new and unfamiliar environment, to face unfamiliar teachers and children they do not know, to eat on their own, to put on and take off their clothes for their lunchtime nap, and most importantly, to go to the toil,t not with their mothers, and to use the toilet not by themselves but in an open one. ......,

Of curs,e children are nervous, they already have separation anxiety and they don't want to go to kindergarten because they are not as "free" as they are at home.

However, at the end of the day, there are so many toys and so many children playing games together that they are still very happy, so it shows: when you pick up your child after school in the afternoon, your child is happy and even excited.

There is always a reason why children cry in the nursery.

The little girl I talked about earlier who cried for 4 months and why she cried for so long at nursery school, I discovered the problem during a home visit.

The child had just turned one, her parents had divorced, her mother had left the country and her father had gone off somewhere, leaving her with an elderly grandmother.

The nanny had to do household chores, take care of the grandmother, and also take care of the little girl, who was less than 3 years old.

The nanny had little interaction with the child daily and rarely held her. The child was insecure and in a state of anxiety at all times of the day, so after being sent to kindergarten, she was faced with a new environment and was even more insecure.

Luckily for this little girl, she met a good teacher, M.s Chen, the class teacher, who took her everywhere she went every day, and she was like a "little follower".

She felt sorry for this child, her parents had made a mistake and deprived her of the love she deserved from a young age, so she gave her a lot of love, hug,s and gentle words, and gave her more care.

Four months into kindergarten, this girl does not take naps and cries every morning, new,n and night, but for the patience and love of the teacher in this class, the child would not adopter.

So there is a reason why children cry, either they don't feel safe, as in the case of the little girl mentioned above, who has been 'abandoned' by her father since she was a little girl and is seriously insecure.

Either the child is too attached to her parents and has never been separated from them, or the parents take care of the child on a day-to-day basis and the child is overly dependent on them both psychologically and in terms of dealing with matters, and such children are afraid of entering a new environment, which is a challenge.

This is why parents must be willing to let go of their children and allow them to take on this challenge.

Either the child does not fit in at the kindergarten, or the teacher is too strict, the child is too restricted, the teacher is too strong, the teacher criticisms the child, and the child does not want to go to kindergarten because he is not comfortable.

Or your child may not know how to get along with other children because there are no children to play with in kindergarten. They may even get upset when they criticized for grabbing toys from children.

Other children can put on and take off their clothes and are praised by the teacher, other children can eat by themselves but they can't do anything by themselves.

Some children know how to use their "magic", they don't want to go to kindergarten because their mothers don't work, so if they cry, their mothers will be softened up.

Having said that, if your child cries so much in kindergarten, do you still insist on sending your child to kindergarten? What should I do?

You must send your child to kindergarten, and you must send your child to kindergarten and then leave quickly and firmly without looking BA, so that your child does not have any expectations.

As long as the kindergarten you choose is in a good environment and the teachers are responsible and loving, your child will grow up and it is normal for them to cry for a while.

Be a warm-heated mum who appreciates the fact that every day when you pick up your child from nursery, you encourage and praise your child: you've grown up, and it's great to be with the teachers and children at nursery! And give your child a big hug! This is something you must do every day! Your child will feel happy from your emotions and will know positively how rewarding it is to go to kindergarten. So soon they will adapt to the fun and joyful life of kindergarten.