Be strict with others and lenient with yourself

A is a colleague of the old unit, we all work together in the summer night, or go to the newly opened shop "robbery", or to the cafe a little love, he must say hello is AA or someone please eat. If we share, he will hesitate again and again, out of the ability of primary school students to lie to ask for leave, and sometimes physical discomfort, and rush to do work. But if someone is enthusiastic about inviting everyone to dinner, he will be able to push everything aside and happily arrive on time.

We all thought he was going to save up for a house or a wife and children, but he firmly declared himself a celibate, and when house prices were soaring, he said, with a little delay, that he would rent until the end. But his purse, in fact, is more than everyone of us, when the bonus, a look at his mysterious smile, you know his performance, and the first. We used to pay a bonus, to pinch a meal, but he rarely this habit, carefully saved money into a regular, looking forward to the end of the year, can be thousands of interest.

Knowing that he was stingy, we never expected him to treat us to a meal, but once, we all made fun of him. It was during the lunch break that he mentioned that his sister had sent him the best Biluochun, and the Qi sitting next to him laughed and said: Why don't you have time to give us all a taste? I thought he would perfunctory A "Yes", never thought, A was actually serious back: that can not, tea is so expensive. Everyone immediately froze there, not knowing how to respond. But A, as if nothing had happened, walked away, leaving us behind who did not get a bargain.

But once, A, who has never been in the habit of treating, tried to invite me and Qi to dinner, and went to a well-known restaurant in the city. When ordering, he was not polite, and he tried to please us with language. We, who have never received such treatment from him, are actually like a dream, thinking vigorously while eating, after all, what does he have to save us? Until the end of the meal, I did not think of a proper reason for his meal. Confused home, in the middle of the night, the phone suddenly zero sound, opened to hear Qi scream: Ann, A is not looking at one of us ah? ! I "ah" a shout, but the bottom of my heart like a ghost possessed the body, suddenly fell into the ice.

A really had a passionate pursuit of Qi later, but it was soon extinguished. Because Qi was already ready, found A temporary "bodyguard", bluffed away A. After the death, A never invited us to dinner, even met us, and didn't even look at us.

B is a doctor I know who loves movies and books, has almost all the famous plates in the world, and has enough good books on the shelves to open a small library. The first time we met, I was completely impressed by this man's knowledge. Since then, for the sake of learning, I often ask him out to drink tea and chat, cultivate mutual friendship. Indeed, the two people soon became friends who talked about everything, according to past experience, while he was talking happily, I pointed to a book on the shelf that I had longed for for a long time, and said, Can I borrow this book to read, I guarantee that I will return you in good condition in a week. B hardly thought, then solemnly said: how can I, I will not allow anyone to share my books and discs, they belong to me alone.

Embarrassed, I made a random excuse and quit. It took me a long time to convince myself that B just loved the book too much, otherwise, if he wouldn't borrow his friends, maybe he wasn't worth it. But I didn't expect that a few days later, B did something else that left me dumbfounded.

At that time, B, Xuan and I went to visit an art exhibition, the three of us happened to meet, and we planned to share a car. When the car is approaching the destination, the meter shows 28 yuan, I said to the master to stop in front of it, and B, immediately asked: that extra money, not good points, who do we pay more? Let you pay, I do not care about the jade, if I pay, it is against the principle of fairness. I glanced at B in surprise, and just as I was about to say I'll pay, B said to the driver in an irrefutable tone, "Keep going." When the meter jumped to 30, B decisively called a stop, and then smiled: 10 yuan a person, this is a fair carpooling.

Xuan and I smiled at each other in the back seat of the car, handed the money to B in the front row, and did not wait for him, and walked straight back. He fell more than ten meters away, Xuan finally could not help, ha ha laugh out of tears.

To be able to manage selfishness to the principles of nature, neither humble nor aggressive, for the man who should be generous and tolerant, when it is a rare "realm". Among the men after 80, there are many needle-pointed men like A and B, they are used to exclusive, exclusive, whatever belongs to their own things, they will not share with others. If you don't understand the selfishness they have penetrated into the bones, you may not be careful, you will be mercilessly stabbed by them.

So for the needle man, the best way is to smile and walk away. Or, without waiting for them to get close, yell class!

Go to a conference and a group of experts are seated at the guest table, ready to be called upon by the host to speak impromptu. And the microphone, but also at any time there is a person commandeered, never passed down the danger. The audience, listening to the drowsy, yawning, only hope that the chattering speaker, can quickly read his endless manuscript, put on someone else. Although, the other one, not necessarily interesting, but at least fresh, can not always stare at an excited deformed face, and let the eye produce aesthetic fatigue, isn't it?

I thought that the people on the stage would be much more patient than we are, because they are born with the same roots, so it is not too urgent to go to each other. Instead, the people on stage were more eager to glance at their watches and roll their eyes at the speaker than the rest of us in the audience. Some people also use a slight cough to remind the speaker frequently that time is about to be consumed by him alone. Some people are restless and upset to turn over the manuscript in their hands, a pair of no longer round to get up and leave the upset attitude.

Finally, a senior person came out to "uphold justice" and reminded the host that each person should not speak for more than 15 minutes thereafter, and when the time was up, he interrupted regardless of whether he had finished or not. The rest of the speakers breathed a long sigh of relief, thinking that it would soon be their turn to speak freely. Next, when each guest speaks for 15 minutes, everyone will look at the host, and the host in this unusual atmosphere, has to ruthlessly interrupt the red-faced person. And almost every interrupted person, without exception, will say: one more minute to finish. So everyone patiently waited for the end of this minute, but at the end, it was found that the speaker, as usual, would list one, two, three, and go on talking. Until the host had to forcibly interrupt him in the midst of "public outrage."

The senior speaker was the last to make a concluding speech, and everyone believed that the rule-making expert would set the best example for all the speakers, so that this somewhat tedious meeting would leave a good impression because of this appropriate closing speech. But unfortunately, the expert who started to speak with great excitement and saliva flying, once he opened his mouth, he was like a floodgate that could not be held back. No matter how the audience below whispered and fidgeted, and how his peers on stage frowned and rolled their eyes, he remained oblivious. Finally, at the 35-minute mark, the moderator cut him off with clever words and took the microphone away "just in time" to avoid a rambling personal speech.

I also think of an interesting story when I lived in Beijing S big "Doctor Building". A woman in the sun is very good at noon to wash a lot of clothes, hang to the balcony, do not want to downstairs a man is drying, wait until the man found, the quilt almost became drowned. A spat began. Bo men angrily accused Bo women four eyes can not see things, a basic quality is not there; Bo woman is against Bo man mouth curse words, read to the doctor in vain, the most basic gentleman demeanor is not. Finally, the battle escalated, Bo man threatened to break the glasses that Bo woman did not use, Bo woman brought a basin of dirty water, threatening Bo man said he dared to come up, she will wash the foot water all poured onto his quilt.

Finally, a "good Samaritan" came out to advise that both of you should have a good think behind closed doors, and when throwing harsh words at each other, you should also think about yourself exactly the same. Isn't the girl full of knowledge, but forget the truth of kindness to others? And the Bo man, when accusing the Bo woman of not being feminine, didn't he just forget the gentleman's tolerance and comity? Besides, you are both doctors, and neither is more superior than the other.

This is to persuade the words, do not want to let Bo men bo women to shift the direction of the same hatred, together will be directed at the perpetrator. For a time, the perpetrator became a target, almost by the two people's saliva oblivion. And I love this gossip little woman, but standing on the balcony, like enjoying a good play, happy to the flowers.

Many times, we teach others to be "strict with oneself and lenient with others," but we often turn around and become "strict with others and lenient with ourselves." We are so forgetful that we exclude ourselves from the crowd.