What I Think of Men Who Swipe Right on Everyone

I’ve been on Tinder longer than I care to admit. On and off, swipe by swipe, sometimes for fun, sometimes for real. Like most women I know, I’ve gone through the phases: hopeful, cynical, amused, annoyed. I’ve had the weird openers, the unsolicited pictures, the awkward dates, and the rare, golden sparks. But there’s one type of Tinder guy that never fails to kill the vibe: the “mass swiper.”

If you’ve never been on the receiving end of this phenomenon, let me paint you a picture. You open the app, start swiping, and suddenly you get five matches in a row. “Wow,” you think. “Maybe I’m on fire today.” But then you open the chats, and all of them are… the same. A bland “hey” or a generic compliment. No mention of anything specific from your bio. You start to get that sinking feeling: this guy didn’t even look at your profile, did he?

He didn’t. And you were probably one of the 100 women he swiped right on during his lunch break.

The Shotgun Swipe Strategy

Some men (not all, thankfully) approach Tinder like it’s a numbers game. They swipe right on every single profile, yes, literally everyone, and wait to see who matches back. It’s what I call the “shotgun swipe” strategy. No aim, just spray and pray.

I get it. It’s frustrating out there. The odds aren’t in anyone’s favor, and men are told over and over that they have to make the first move. But mass swiping doesn’t just feel impersonal. It feels lazy. And more than anything, it sends a loud, clear message to women: You’re not special. You’re just part of my daily quota.

We’re Not Stupid

Here’s what some men don’t seem to realize: women can tell. Maybe not right away, but after a few messages, the pattern becomes obvious. He doesn’t remember what you wrote in your bio. He asks questions you already answered. He copy-pastes the same openers. And if you don’t respond right away? He unmatches and moves on to the next.

It’s like talking to a machine that only pretends to care for 30 seconds before moving on. And in a dating culture already drowning in flakiness, this only deepens the disillusionment.

We’re not expecting Shakespeare or soul-searching monologues. But we do expect a little effort. A little curiosity. A tiny sign that you actually wanted to match with us, not just anyone with eyeliner and a pulse.

Swiping Right on Everyone Isn’t Confidence. It’s Desperation.

Some guys think it makes them look confident. Like they’re bold, open-minded, unbothered by rejection. But to many of us, it doesn’t come across that way. It reads more like desperation, or worse, entitlement.

It’s as if they’re saying, “I deserve attention because I’m trying so hard.” But swiping a thousand times a day isn’t effort. It’s automation. If anything, it shows you’re not being selective or intentional. It feels like applying to every job on the internet and being surprised when none of the companies remember your name.

True confidence is about quality, not quantity. It’s about knowing your worth and choosing people who align with you. When a man actually reads my profile, mentions something specific, and sends a thoughtful message, even just a funny one-liner that relates to my interests, it stands out. It feels good. And that’s what gets a reply.

The Swipe Inflation Problem

Another side effect of mass swiping? It devalues the entire matching experience. Think of it like inflation. When matches are too easy to get, they start to mean nothing.

When I match with a guy who swipes right on everyone, I can’t trust that he genuinely found me interesting. It’s like winning a prize in a raffle where everyone’s ticket was pulled. Yay, I guess? But also… meh.

There’s no excitement, no curiosity, no sense of “you and I might actually click.” And that’s the point of dating, isn’t it? To click?

Some Honesty Would Be Nice

Here’s a suggestion to the mass swipers: just be honest. If you’re only using the app to pass time, or you’re looking for something casual and low-effort, say so. There’s nothing wrong with that, as long as you’re upfront.

The problem is when it’s framed as something more, when you tell every match they’re beautiful and amazing, when you hint at wanting something meaningful, but your actions scream otherwise.

Dating apps are already full of enough emotional potholes. A little transparency goes a long way.

What Women Actually Want

Let me flip the narrative for a second. What do women like me actually want on Tinder? It’s not a millionaire or a model. It’s not a man with a six-pack or a six-figure income.

We want someone who chooses us. Not randomly. Not because he swipes right on everyone. But because something stood out. Something caught his eye, maybe a book I love, a hobby we share, or a photo where I look genuinely happy.

We want effort. Not overwhelming, performative effort. Just… interest. Real, focused interest.

And if that’s too much to ask, then maybe Tinder isn’t the problem.

A Final Confession

I’ve matched with some mass swipers before. I’ve even gone on a couple of dates. But you know what? It never led anywhere. Not because they were bad people, but because they weren’t actually interested in me. They were interested in the idea of matching, in collecting dates like tokens, in getting “results” from their efforts.

It left me feeling like an interchangeable option. And dating shouldn’t feel like that.

So to the men who swipe right on everyone: maybe slow down. Maybe read the bios. Maybe start treating matches like conversations, not trophies. It might mean fewer matches, but they’ll matter more.

And who knows? You might even get a second date.