STOP🚫 Hurting with Questions: Speak Kindly, Live Gently

Don’t Touch Others’ Weak Spots! ❤‍🔥

Is it really necessary that in every meeting or phone conversation, we bring up people’s vulnerabilities?

Your daughter still isn’t married?

Your son hasn’t gotten a job yet?

It’s been years since your wedding—still no good news?

Only one child in five years?

Why did you reject that proposal?

Why do you have so many pimples on your face now? You used to look so nice.

Why have you gained so much weight? You used to be so fit.

What happened to your hair?

Just think for a moment…

If you have all these blessings in your life, is it really because of your own merit?

If your child is married or has a job, is that purely because of your own efforts?

Perhaps you had supportive people around you—those who guided and helped you, not just those who gossiped and questioned.

There are young men and women out there who go around looking for matches themselves, while decent children rely on their parents’ judgment and support.

If your children have high-ranking jobs, is it really only because of you?

No, not at all. There is a power above—the Almighty—who knows what to give to whom, and when.

He alone knows how to test someone’s patience and how to measure their gratitude.

You don’t know what others are going through.

Maybe someone’s son sacrificed his whole life to support his family.

Maybe a daughter chose not to marry to serve her aging parents.

Sometimes parents are so busy enjoying their own lives that they forget to think about their children’s future.

And sometimes life’s harsh realities break a person from within.

Don’t let arrogance consume you.

Who knows, the same pride could one day be shattered—and your own children might become the cause of your downfall.

The greater the test, the greater the reward.

This is the promise of the Lord of the worlds.

So remember — it’s NOT your place to...

Poke into someone’s personal struggles.

Highlight someone’s weaknesses.

Add to the pain someone is already silently enduring.

Can’t you see the pain on someone’s face when you ask such questions?

If you can’t be someone’s support, at least don’t become the reason for their suffering.

We often see others’ weaknesses, but many people speak up just to satisfy their curiosity or for their own shallow amusement

Never expose or question someone’s hardships—especially those related to fate:

(Why aren’t you getting married? Why did your engagement break? Why haven’t you found a job yet?)

When someone asks such things right in front of me, I can’t bear to see the hurt on the other person’s face.

Why are we so insensitive?

Even when someone is under pressure and still chooses to meet you or call you, must your words add to their stress?

Maybe they called you to find some mental peace—not to be reminded of their burdens.

Please don’t be the reason for someone’s pain.

Don’t give people false hope just for your own benefit.

Don’t destroy someone’s peace for the sake of improving your own life.

If someone hasn’t shared their problem with you, don’t go digging into the sensitive matters of their life.

Every meeting doesn’t need to be about questions like:

(Still single? No kids yet? No job? Haven’t bought a house yet?)

Use your wisdom—if there’s something they want you to know, they’ll tell you themselves. What’s the point of repeating such questions?

If you aren’t facing such issues yourself, try putting yourself in their shoes. Maybe then you’ll understand.

Help people—don’t just talk.

Spread ease, spread love.

Live in peace, and let others live peacefully too.

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