Stabbed in the back

It would be unfair of me to paint the situation as being totally negative because it isn’t, I’m surrounded by very supportive and loving friends who do show great loyalty and commitment, however, it's the break from the standard that makes it all the more striking. Having something happen to you which is out of the ordinary is what makes it hurt even more, to have someone you trust stab you in the back when you expect it the least. The experience of having someone you trust do that to you isn’t as bad as I expected it to be, at least for me it didn’t hurt that much because I saw it coming and secondly, I could mitigate the effects of it all together. I didn’t lose that much and I think the lesson I learned was precious, much more than the amount I lost.

What a traitor looks like

I still remember the moments before this treason, the person approached me like a sheep, an innocent person who was desperately in need and was counting on me as their savior to deliver them from that problem which seemed above them to handle. Even though I didn’t have a lot, I wanted to be this person’s hero so I caved in. What was going on in my mind at that moment was just to come to the aid of a long-time friend I believed would do the same for me if I was ever in need. I didn’t look at the amount as being too heavy on me, mainly because I trusted this person based on our past experiences together and my willingness to just trust blindly. By default nobody wants to live with fear, looking over their shoulders all the time or cross-checking everything everybody they meet tells them.

Precautions

Aside from personality conflicts or circumstantial events, most of our misunderstandings come from financial misgivings. One person is doing well, the other is struggling and that imbalance eventually creates a conflict between those persons, there is a whole plethora of reasons we can name when it comes to treason but specifically on the topic of finances what often plays against us is the fact that we take the wrong decisions in favor of our emotions rather than logic. We know what we ought to do, yet because we voluntarily let ourselves be swayed by our emotions, we get rid of the guard rails and that ends up hurting us in the end.

We are humans it's natural, we air more on the emotional side of things rather than the cold-blooded side of things. Two things are going to happen before and after treason, either you protect yourself before it happens or you don’t, or after it happens you are still faced with the same choices.

It's a good thing to be trusting about the people you have around you, but you shouldn’t stay oblivious to the reality of human nature and to the fact that you don’t have a total mastery of those you have around you.

Conclusion

Treason can be explained in many ways, it might not be justified but it certainly can be explained. Sometimes people aren’t strong enough to resist the temptations, other times a succession of events led them to this point, yet again other times it was always a feeling lurking in the back. One thing we can never say is that it was involuntary, it certainly was voluntary with the person choosing to do so.

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