Moments Over Tea: Connecting Through Everyday Conversations

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Imagine yourself sitting in your lounge or a comfortable place you love, with your friends or family or any one whose company entertain you. You are chatting, laughing and having a fun conversation with them, having a cup of hot chocolate, coffee or tea. Such a heartwarming scene, isn’t it?

Let me take a guess, everyone must’ve had some beverage before. It can either be tea, coffee, cold drink or even alcohol. Having brought up in an Indian family, tea was a customary for me or I should say to my family. When I was a kid, no matter what, every morning and evening I used to have tea with my mom. As I grew older, I broke that habit. There are two major reasons for it. The first one or the major one is that drinking coffee seemed cool to me, as everyone around me were being coffee persons, from my friends to my cousins. Later I stopped adding sugar in my drink and a tea without sugar would taste like a complete disaster to me. At that time, I was trying to cut down on my sugar. But then I realised that I was eating too much sugar which was invisible to me in the form of packed stuff. I still don’t add sugar in my coffee but I’ve started drinking tea again and I stared to cut down on my packed stuff consumption.

When I wasn’t drinking tea, I realised that I was missing that tea time with my mom. I don't remember what we used to do when we had tea together in the past. But now I know how I want to spend my tea time. I want to have my mom’s company or my dad’s and talk to them. But I don’t know why they seem more distant now. Neither of them was willing to share their experiences of what had happened either today or yesterday. I want to have that little moment when I get to know them. Any memories, whether it was the small moments from school or events from today or yesterday. As they get older, I want to get to know them better and make some special memories, memories that will just stay with me.

Whenever I went to my dad to talk about just anything he used to get annoyed. There can be many reasons for him to feel frustrated. First, He was always tired when I showed up. As it was the time when he used to go to bed. I can not do anything about it because it was the only time when I can reach him. My dad is a morning person and I am not. He wakes up early and his day schedule is busy. When he comes back from his office, he is busy, in watering plants, doing pooja (prayer), watching tv, eating dinner and then going to bed. And second, because, all of a sudden, I am asking him some stupid questions like what happen at office today and things like that. For someone who have never being asked these types of questions it is hard to think of answers. It has become easy for him now. And he shares some of his experiences with me.

Its pretty hard for me do the same thing with my mom. First, I am afraid of my mom. I don’t know at which moment or at which word or tone she will feel offended. Second, I really can’t relate to the things my mom tells me. I try to understand her perspective but I just can’t. Other reason could also be that I feel my mom controlling and dominating. I just can’t help myself when I face these patterns in people. For my mom, whatever she feels or believes is right. It is not wrong to have that thought but, in my opinion, it is wrong to force others to also believe in it. So, I have to think twice before uttering a word when I am talking to my mom.

Isn’t it a special bond between us? I think it is. And that’s all that matter. This is something everyone should try. Contact your loved ones and ask their whereabouts, how are they or what they did today? I am sure that they will tell you something and they will also start to feel good. As everyone have something to share, it’s just that no one’s is asking them or interested in listening to their end of the story. Just try to listen and connect. It will be worth it.

Take a little break form your occupied life and make some moments. We’ll meet again later with some more little moments. Till then enjoy. Hope to see you soon.