MEN ARE NOT UNGRATEFUL AS WE THINK.

INTRODUCTION: Do you think men are ungrateful as we think? Do you believe that all men abondon their spouses when they make it in life? No. There are several reasons to that and today, I want to address one of the major. This content addresses one situation that make men leave their spouses when they make it in life. These situations are arranged in three stages known as the silent moment, the reference moment and the decision moment, where each stage elaborates some points that can help us avoid certain mistakes to keep our relationship and marriages safe. Stay tuned and enjoy.

Not all men are ungrateful as we think. No man in his rightful senses would abandon his spouse who supported him in times of struggle. They will only do that if they realize our true character especially during when life becomes difficult.

Some women maltreat their broke spouses. How some women treat their spouses facing financial challenges is so sad. Some are very tragic and heartbreaking when you hear them. Women are back bones to men and if we hurt them, you can imagine what will happen to their lives. Hmm!

Let's begin by defining who a man is. A man is the one who has the capacity and full control over his affairs, life and finances and is capable of taking care of his home. A man is truly a man when he boldly voices out his likes and dislikes without hesitation because he is the head of the family. But he has to have what it takes(money) to do all these. Without money men do not behave as men. They are often quiet during these times and only observe situations. They take note of what happens during these difficult times without speaking. They keep all those thoughts in their minds and this is where the silence moment begins.

Silent Moment:

This is the dangerous among all stages because a silent man is like a sleeping lion. During this stage there is nothing to push them to speak. They just keep quiet and observe. Whenever we raise our voice over theirs, they don't react. They rather leave to sit somewhere peaceful. They do not react because they don't have what it takes to standout since they depend on us for survival. And this is where the attitude of women sets in.

Just because they aren't talking, we take advantage to tell them whatever we like. We treat them like trash because they don't provide to the table anymore. We call them names because we feed them and if we don't they die. I'm even told some women, cheat during these times because no one wants to be with a dead man. Every woman wants stability and comfort. The turture continues until they can't take it anymore and decide to leave. Even at the moment we care less because they live on our expenses. I'm told some men think of suicide at this stage which I am not surprised because it's depressing to see the woman you thought had you treat you this way. One mistake we do as women is that, we forget quickly. We forget that everything that has a beginning has an end and that the table can turn. When easily forget that Life will become better for them when grace finds them. They will begin to restructure their lives again and they will definitely come for explanations. That is where the referencing begins.

The Reference Moment:

At this stage life turns out be better for them. They will begin to regain their self-esteem and after that, they will recall all those moments. That is when they will ask us all the questions they swallowed. They will demand answers. They will certainly enquire the reasons we behaved that way and why we treated them so badly. They will keep releasing them chronologically and expects cogent explanations, after which they decide our faith.

Decision moment:

At this stage, they recall to predict our future with them. They analyze to see if we are worth to be with. Well, most women call this moment the ungrateful moment which I somehow disagree because their decision is based on how we treated them during those difficult times. I'm sure if we had treated them right they wouldn't have contemplated. They will certainly go for another woman to start life with and we will blame them for cheating. We we say they are wicked. We will curse them but was it really their fault?

Conclusion: Let us be careful of how we handle spouses facing problems. No condition is permanent as far as life is concerned, difficult moments will come that's why it's important for women to also work hard to support men during these stage. Let's treat them right always because they spend all their lives out there fighting to make our lives better. Feel free to comment and ask any questions you don't understand via #[email protected]