Hey YOU, Yes, You. Quit Discontenting Yourself. You're Perfect.

Hey, person. Oh, my God, YOU, the one reading it right now. Now I need you to pause for a moment. And let out everything that he made sense. Just take a breath. Give it a minute for the whole thing to die. The next thing to tell you cost me a million. You are perfect. I recognize this inner critic — the one who says, “I’m not enough.” Or screams, “You’ll never be enough.” It is the tone that makes you doubt every choice, every possibility, every little shred of what makes you. You see, that voice — you need to pay attention — is a liar. You are far from good enough. You’re already so, so large. You can remain in your place without lifting a finger. You are precisely what you were created to be. You’d had to begin considering it.” Quit wanting to be someone else Have you ever seen someone’s entire life and said, “I’m becoming this person”? It can be your best friend, a colleague, the latest celebutante, or someone you follow on Instagram. But does it not sound greener than the grass? And I don’t know about you, but I don’t. Imagine if you need only a glimpse through those lenses and telepathy of their brains whenever whatever was behind that smirk once the scenes abased was delivered to you. What if all the great power and ideas of the great were where an image in the ideal? You are different. You may be the only person in the universe with the particular mix of knowledge, likes, and wants that you have. The soul is your spirit, your essence is yours. That’s amazing. Your reception, your sense of humor, your exit on being — none of the “you” features can be marketed. Be yourself because everyone else is already taken — Oscar Wilde.

You don't have to do anything. You don’t have to cease being what makes you — you. You are enough. Happy Birthday you magnificent messy and very complicated creatures. You determine your value, no one else, and the lives of others Be yourself. It’s more than enough.

Decide to Stop Wanting Approval from the People Who Hurt You

We all want to be loved. All of us want to be noticed and valued for who we are. But what if it’s validation we’re craving from people who don’t treat us well? What if we were answerable to someone who can’t even see us, or even worse, someone we have been hurt by?

You do not need to approve of them.

“If someone does not see your value, it doesn’t make you less valuable. It means they’re not ready to appreciate your value.” It’s a reflection of them. You don’t have to chase anyone who has made you feel small. You are not meant to be the footnote, the omitted chapter, or the supporting role to someone else’s story.” You’re a news story, and you deserve a new treatment.

[That’s how you discover ferocious love — where it just also so happens to be you, and everybody else celebrates you, for the sole purpose of celebrating you.] Those are the people you should spend your time on — not people who break you down, make you feel like you’re less than or make you wonder if you’re worth what you have.” Be with our people — the ones that build you up. They will be the ones who see your potential, and also help you stay enrolled, and grow!

(And if that voice who always knows better that’s just down the hall starts kicking your butt this regularly, that you have an actual bully, declare a cease-fire.)

I’m going to ask you a question — how many times have you stared into a mirror and not liked what you saw? You may have despised your hair, your smile, or the contours of your body. Or perhaps you wish you were taller, thinner, or more muscular or had smoother skin. I get it. We live in a society that tells us we’re not enough unless we tick this box. But you are not a mold. You are a masterpiece.

Your body is a miracle. Think about it. The marks where life sketches its tale, the curves of laughter, the gray hair. Your body has held space for every joy, every sorrow, every single one of your victories and failures. You are the container of your soul, your spirit. And that’s something to be cherished, not reviled.

Your smeared faces, your smile lines, your freckles, your scars, your wrinkles — it’s the landscape of your journeys. Your face is a book of your life — of all the tears that have streaked your cheeks, the laughter you have exchanged, the pain you have inflicted and felt, the embrace you have given and received all those things continue to write the book of you.’ Your face is cute because you’re in it. Each time you look at your face, you are looking in the mirror and your face reflects your spirit.

What about your personality? They might not have much to say, maybe they’re a bit shy, or maybe they’re the person who will sing whatever comes to their mind. Your odd bits are your gift to the universe. 1 of those things is excellence that is what Islam did If we were all the same, this world would be one hell of a lot more boring, I’d say. The truth is, the things that you believe make you “strange” or “awkward” — the quirks and traits of yourself that you are worried about — are the very things people love about you.

Don’t hide your quirks. Embrace them. They make you, you.

You Are Flaw some: So Are You flaw some.

And speaking of imperfections, may we discuss imperfections? We have all been trained to believe that for us to be lovable, and successful, we have to correct everything about ourselves. But here is what I want you to know: Flaws are not something to hide or fix. Flaws are beautiful.

Your scars, your “flaws” — this is your humanity.” They’re the mile markers of your navigating. You’ve waged wars, you’ve had pitfalls and you’ve learned. And all those “flaws” are but a chapter in your beautiful, hot mess, real-life story.

Imagine a universe where everyone was perfect — everyone looked the same, acted the same, and never had a bad day. It would be boring, wouldn't it? It is your imperfections that make you unique, interesting, and beautiful.

So, stop trying to hide them. Stop apologizing for them. It’s your strengths and weaknesses that make you unique. Embrace them. Love them. You are beautiful, you are perfect exactly the way that you are.

Be Confident with Who You Are

But today I want to talk about confidence. Confidence does not stem from perfection. It’s not about not making mistakes or knowing all the answers. Your confidence does not come from outside — it comes from owning every aspect of the puzzle that is you; the good, the bad, the light, and the dark.

Real confidence means knowing that you’re still worthy of your truth, no matter what lies other people tell you. If you know who you are, then don't bother trying to convince the rest of us. You don’t need to impress them anymore because you understand that you don’t need to. You are already whole.

Confidence is magnetic. Own your shit Who you are attracts. And you know what? Well, there is a name for this phenomenon: the style of confidence. So pull up, show us your smile, and keep shining like a torch within. Because you should be all of that and then some

Your Relationships Do Not Define Your Happiness

Let that sink in: Your happiness is yours. We think we will be happy when we find the right kind of relationship, the right job, and the right level of popularity. Truth be told, happiness is not an external trait. It comes from within.

You’re waiting for somebody else’s OK to be at peace. No one else dictates how, or even when, you love yourself. You’re the person who gives yourself happiness. Someone else can’t make you feel good about yourself anymore because now you know that happiness is a choice and it’s up to you to create it for yourself.

Keep that joy. So don’t let nobody take your joy away.” ‘If somebody doesn’t want you to feel good about yourself, that’s their problem, not yours.’ You don’t need to play small for anyone. Your happiness, your joy, your peace — you have a right to have those, and to share those, and nobody has the right or the power to take them from you.”

"You" Are Pretty Amazing

I’m about to lean out from the mountaintops up here and yell: You’re amazing. You are incredible. You are greater than all this world asks of you. You don’t have to change. You don’t have to pretend. Just, you are the way you need to be.

Soothe your imperfection; you are human because you are imperfect. Your kindness, your strength, your laughter, your tears — that is what makes you real, what makes you different, what makes you separate from the rest. You are beautiful, not despite your flaws, but because of your flaws.

But from now on, I am certain you will smile. You need to look yourself in the fucking mirror and say, “I am enough. I am. I am magnificent exactly as I am, which is to be transformed or NOT. Because you are. The world does not need YOU not to be YOU — unapologetically, fearlessly, and beautifully YOU.”

You are amazing. Don’t ever forget that.