He Earned a Million a Year and Married an Internet Celebrity, but He Cried Bitterly Late at Night: These Three Types of Wives Are a Man's True "Top-Notch Life"

I came across the hot topic "A Post-90s Financial Upstart Married an Internet Celebrity with Millions of Followers" on the trending list. At the wedding scene, luxury cars lined up, and the bride's wedding dress was studded with broken diamonds. The comment section was filled with messages like "So envious" and "This is what it means to be a winner in life." However, at the class reunion last week, my cousin who works in investment banking said with red eyes, "Now I'd rather use all my savings to exchange for a wife who can have a bowl of hot noodles with me."

It turned out that his Internet celebrity wife was busy with live streaming for product promotion and attending brand events every day, and the house was always empty. Last month, when my cousin was hospitalized due to acute appendicitis, his wife only recorded a video of visiting him and posted it on the Moments, and then immediately went to attend a fashion dinner. Lying in the hospital bed, my cousin looked at the full screen of likes and suddenly felt like a joke. This seemingly glorious marriage was actually a cold cage.

This reminded me of Lao Li, the owner of a hardware store in my hometown. His wife was short and plump, and she always wore a washed-out apron, helping with the business in the store. Last year, a heavy rainstorm washed away Lao Li's warehouse, and goods worth hundreds of thousands of yuan were soaked in water. Everyone thought he was going to go bankrupt, but unexpectedly, his wife didn't say a word. She mortgaged the old house that she brought as a dowry and accompanied him to apologize to customers one by one. Half a year later, the business made a comeback. Lao Li would tell everyone he met, "My wife is my greatest real estate asset."

Reality has slapped countless men in the face: We always think that marrying a fair-skinned, beautiful woman from a prominent family is a success, but we forget that the essence of marriage is to find a comrade-in-arms who can face life with you. Those men who truly see things clearly are quietly looking for these three types of "treasure-like" wives.

The first type is the "emotional partner" who can embrace your vulnerability. There is a "emotional account" theory in psychology. Every time a couple supports each other, it's like making a deposit, and every time they ignore each other, it's like making a withdrawal. On the day my friend A Jie failed in his business venture, he squatted by the roadside and called his wife. He thought he would hear complaints, but unexpectedly, his wife just said, "Don't move. I'll bring you your favorite fried chicken and beer." The two sat on the curb and finished the whole bucket of fried chicken under the streetlight. Later, when A Jie made a comeback, there was a sentence hanging in the most prominent place in his company: "My success is because there is always someone behind me willing to share my embarrassment with me."

In contrast, in those seemingly glorious marriages, the husband works hard outside for his career, while the wife is busy with beauty treatments, fitness, and attending afternoon tea parties for ladies at home. When the man comes home exhausted, what greets him is only an empty living room and a sentence like "I'm so tired from shopping today." Such a marriage is like two parallel lines that never intersect. No matter how gorgeous the exterior is, it can't hide the desolation inside.

The second type is the "life ally" who can grow together with you. My cousin-in-law is a programmer. At the age of 35, he encountered a career crisis and was so anxious that he couldn't sleep every day. My cousin silently signed up for a PS course. During the day, she worked as a designer in an advertising company, and at night, she taught her husband design. Two years later, my cousin-in-law successfully transformed into a UI designer, and my cousin also became the design director of the company. Now, there is a piece of calligraphy hanging in their study: "The best love is that you are great, and I'm not bad either."

Truly capable wives will never live their lives as appendages of men. They are like two big trees growing side by side, not only sheltering each other from the wind and rain but also growing wildly towards the sun on their own. Those men who think that "women should stay at home to take care of their husbands and children" will sooner or later be abandoned by the times; and those women who regard marriage as a "long-term meal ticket" will eventually lose their self-worth.

The third type is the "soul confidant" who can see through your disguise. The love between the writer Qian Zhongshu and his wife Yang Jiang is enviable. Qian Zhongshu had extremely poor self-care ability. It was common for him to knock over the ink bottle and break the table lamp. However, Yang Jiang never blamed him. She just silently cleaned up the mess and said with a smile, "It doesn't matter. I can fix it." In front of her, Qian Zhongshu could take off all his burdens and be his truest self.

The most precious thing in marriage is not to find a perfect person but to find someone who is willing to accept all of you. When you achieve success and fame, she won't blindly worship you; when you fall to the bottom, she won't kick you when you're down. She has seen you at your most embarrassed moment and still wants to hold your hand and say, "Don't be afraid. I'm here."

At this point, surely someone will retort, "You're brainwashing men and making us look for free nannies!" On the contrary, these three types of wives are the most precious "strategic investments" for men. The emotional value, growth assistance, and soul resonance they provide are far rarer than beauty and wealth and can make the marriage last longer.

Looking at the current marriage and dating market, too many people regard marriage as a transaction: Men want a young and beautiful "vase," and women want a wealthy and handsome "atm." But when the passion fades away, all that's left is a mess. Just like that financial upstart who married an Internet celebrity. On countless late nights, looking at his wife's heavily made-up face during the live stream, he suddenly realized that he didn't know the person sleeping beside him at all.

Marriage is not a fairy tale but a life project jointly managed by two people. Truly successful men will never regard their wives as capital for showing off but will consider them as the most important partners in their lives. Those wives who can share hardships with you, grow with you, and face the ordinary life with you are a man's greatest confidence and the most solid armor of marriage.

What kind of wife do you think a man should find to be considered successful? Is it about appearance and figure? Or about the inner soul? Welcome to leave your thoughts in the comment section. Maybe your opinion can awaken countless people who are confused.