Don’t Marry a Man From a Developing Country as a Well Off Woman

This article is a word of warning for women who travel to developing countries in Africa and Asia, specifically. Beware! Be very careful.

I made the mistake of marrying a man from Ghana, he was an Uber driver in his home country, and hardly had enough money to manage his life back home, but he was hard working and seemed ambitious. I made it clear from day one that I would never get him a British passport and that I had no desire to live in the UK or any othe western country for that matter.

Anyway, after marriage, we moved to Dubai. I love it here because it’s safe for women. It’s not the perfect place to be, but it’s very safe. Anyway, my husband lied to me, and said he had a degree in marketing. He has no degree.

So upon moving here, he hasn’t been able to get a job, well a decent one anyway. So I’ve found myself paying for everything. It’s been a total nightmare.

I’ve covered the cost of everything to a point where I’ve pretty much bled myself dry. I’m tired.

I’m on the brink of getting a divorce because I’m so fed up. I advise any young woman who goes to these developing countries to avoid all local men like the plague.

Forget about how good looking they are, how charming they are, and how loving they appear to be, they are fake. They will pretend to love you to get something from you. Even if you tell them that you won’t get them a Green Card or visa, they will do their best to convince you later on down the line.

This is what is happening to me right now. My husband is trying to convince me to take him to the United States, despite the fact that I’m British and have no connection to the States. He’s trying to convince me to ask a friend if they can get him a visa or a job in the USA.

The truth be told, I don’t want to live in America, I have no desire to live there.

Please, take heed of everything that I’m saying right now because I’m telling you, most of these men are just searching for a way out of poverty.

Don’t make the same mistake that I did. Focus on yourself, and if you do want to get married, marry a man from a developed country. Trust me, even the rich men out there, they are always searching for something. They cannot be trusted, and even they do marry you, they’ll certainly marry a local woman once you’re in love with them. They’ll have kids with other women behind your back, it’s sad to say, and most don’t want to admit this, but it’s the truth.

I know that there is an exception to every rule, and all men aren't the same. However, I can confidently say that 90% of men from developing countries will date a foreign woman to get a green card or visa to another country which is considered more developed. Most African men specifically are eager to leave Africa, and they believe that the West is best. It's sad, but that's the truth.

It’s ingrained in African culture to spread the seed and have as many women as possible. If that’s not what you want, I’d strongly suggest that you don’t marry a native African man unless they can fully fund their own trip abroad, and unless they’ve already been abroad and have access to the funds necessary to travel. If not, don’t touch them with a ten foot barge pole. Stay away!