Detached

The great thing about finally being detached from someone you thought you’d never get over is that you feel free. You can see this person and feel nothing anymore. You talk to this person and no feelings resurface. Nothing about them or what they are doing or seeing or whatever the case maybe does not bother you, and that my friend is when you know you’ve finally moved on and are free from those emotions you thought would never go away.

I personally thought I would never get over my ex, but seeing that person today and feeling completely nothing reassured me that I am finally over him. I wish nothing bad upon him, all I care for is a civil friendship just for the baby. I was with this person for years and we could never let go of one another. It took so many times of talking to not talking to talking again. Until the cycle just ended, and it was for the best.

You know when it’s time to let go of the past and move forward. You know when this person isn’t the one for you anymore as much as you wanted it to be. You can feel every bone in your body telling you that it’s time to let go, and you finally listen. Listening to that gut feeling will be the best thing you do, even if in the moment you feel like you’ll never be able to move on.

It’s very true what they say that time heals all wounds. Give yourself the time you need to completely detach from this person, and you too will be free from the exs you no longer need in your life.

From talking each and everyday to no contact is step one. You need to separate your fairytale feeling for this person and stick with the reality of everything instead. As much as you want this person to be your last and final person it’s not always the reality of it. Don’t hold on to what could be, and see everything for what it really is.

Point is once upon a time I wanted this person to be my last person I’d ever be with, but that was not the case. The cycle had to end, and I needed to separate myself from this person and stop talking to them. In doing so those feelings I once felt for this person are no longer there, and I feel free. Free, happy, and at peace.

Take my advice and watch how you one day just feel detached and free and you don’t even notice when this happens it just does. Time heals all wounds, but you need to decide fist if that is what you really want, because if you are not sure you will be stuck in a never ending cycle like I was. You need to stand with all 10 toes to the ground and listen to your mind not your heart. Listening to your heart you’ll always want to give someone the benefit of the doubt. That they will change, or prove to you that they want to be with you. Remember actions speak louder than words, so I would suggest listening to the actions more than just words. Anyone can say anything to make you feel something but if their actions are not following through to what they are saying then baby you are just wasting your time. Being detached from someone is truly an unmatched feeling. Nothing they say or do can ever hurt you ever again and that’s the best part of it all.