[AITA??]

Something that has been recurrently on my mind lately as the world takes a turn for the worse again--seeing all these families and people struggling because of the housing crisis, lack of jobs, etc... And I don't want to sound as if I'm trying to blame my problems on someone else--yeah, there's a lot of things I hold myself accountable for, as I'm sure many of you do, too. But I want to talk about the fact that...honestly, most of us (18-26+) wouldn't be in half the shit we are if our parents had actually thought about bringing children into the world before actually doing it.

For example: my family never had anything to offer me or my siblings other than severe depression, abuse, and a load of shitty, fucked up memories. Dad was druggy, mother never worked a day in her goddamn life. My siblings and I didn't learn a single thing from them that's going to help us later in life.

If there was one thing I DID learn, though, was that I will NEVER be bringing a child into this world. Why would I subject a kid to the horror this world really has to offer?

"Parents shouldn't be allowed to have children unless they are financially stable and comfortably able to provide for a family." Can't remember where I saw this line--probably on tiktok--but I'm not at all afraid to say I agree. Why would you bring a child into a life of poverty, suffering and depression? Why are you going to subject someone so small and innocent to the shit you can't be bothered to fix?

Nowadays, it is almost impossible to build up from the depravity of council-estate life. You grew up poor, your family name is blacklisted, your drunkard dad has used your name 3948635 times for fraud to take out loans and contracts and God knows what else. They didn't have a single penny or an ounce of advice to offer. Some sorry kids even grow up thinking that popping out seven babies and getting on Universal Credit is the way to live. It's not, and we really need to stop people from teaching their kids this.

My mother had five kids. Got pregnant at fifteen, and if the hospital hadn't have had to remove her womb when she had my youngest brother, she probably would have had a dozen more. And for what? Why? You want a family? Okay...get a job, save some money, make sure you have something to offer kids. But obviously, such things never cross parents' minds.

I vaguely remember seeing some guy suing his parents in court before because that had nothing to offer him but what I stated above. I think that case opened the eyes of many. And why am I ranting about it? Well, I have no regrets in saying that children should be able to hold their parents accountable for this shit--should we be able to sue them like unnamed guy I saw in a post? Yes, in extreme cases. Because why should we have to be forced to live in a shit world with absolutely nothing to guide us? To help us? Some kinds are fortunate as fuck and are born into money--shit's never gonna be hard for them. But what about us? What do we have other than crippling depression, suffocating debt and a credit score of -5?

Maybe I'm an asshole for expecting so much from my parents--but am I, really? Aren't parents supposed to love, teach, nurture and give a better future to their kids? The day I see such a thing happen, I'll forgive my abusive family.

But that's never going to happen.