Accountability

How often do we play the blame game when life gets rough? Very often I suppose. When things go wrong we often cry, get angry, start pointing fingers at the cause of our problems and throw ourselves a big pity party to prop ourselves up, but one thing we often fail to do is take accountability for our actions.

Let’s take a stroll down memory lane. When I was a little kid everyone who I was closest to in my life loved me dearly. Looking back in time I struggle to love who I was because I don’t really see myself as a good person though everyone else did. The reason why I never saw myself as a good person was because of all the problems I caused myself and other people which I never took accountability for. As I slowly started to learn and embrace the idea of accountability in my adulthood I looked back at my old self with a lot of resentment for who I used to be.

There truly aren’t too many things more annoying than a person who never takes responsibility for what’s wrong in our lives. Whether it be our relationships or professional lives, it’s important to take accountability when things go wrong. Though every single misfortune we encounter is not our fault or something we don’t have control over, how we deal with these misfortunes is our responsibility.

Are you in an unhealthy relationship? If you are it is your responsibility to remove yourself from that unhealthy situation. I know, way easier said than done, but if you don’t put forth the effort to try then the constant pain you deal with in said relationship is your shared fault. You have to be conscious of the fact that you are the one who chooses to keep yourself in this bad situation and the only one who can take you out of it is you.

Are you struggling in your finances or in your professional life? I think every adult can attest that it’s hard to be an adult, especially nowadays when financial obligations are growing cost and being employed in some of the best of places doesn’t provide like it should, but it’s your responsibility to adjust your life when these problems come around. Many of us are set in spending habits that may be unnecessary, yet we refuse to bail on them. If this is the stance you’re going to take then you have to be ready to deal with the consequences that follow.

Accountability means understanding that the solutions to all of our problems lie within our own hands. There are a lot of issues we deal with of which we are the cause. If we don’t recognize the part we play in causing them then we will forever be trapped in a purgatory of those problems playing over and over again. Is someone else wholly at fault for something that happened to you? If they are then up to you to get through it. Sitting around feeling sorry for yourself and complaining about how this person and that person did you wrong won’t erase your problems and it will not bring you justice.

You have to be the one to say I messed up and it is up to me to either fix this or make it through this. In regards to other people you have to declare that you’re not gonna be the victim who plays the feeling sorry for myself card. Learn from your experiences whether they were in your control or not. When you start assessing life with the person in the mirror first and foremost you’ll come to find that your greatest ability is accountability.