A true friend is a friend who understands each other

Don't worry, there is no confidant in the future, and everyone in the world doesn't know you

Mutual understanding is the lowest basis for being friends. Friends don't need to have the same view on everything, let alone impose their own views on others. Seeking common ground and preserving differences is the way to get along.

Han Yu and Liu Zongyuan are the advocates of the ancient prose movement in the Tang Dynasty, and they call Han Liu. They are friends all their lives, but they are two people with completely different temperaments. Liu Zongyuan claimed to be a "good Buddha since childhood", while Han Yu was committed to reviving Confucianism. Zhang Shizhao said, "Han and Liu are morally opposite to each other, and the gap is just like." Even so, their friendship will last a lifetime. After Liu Zongyuan's death, Han Yu wrote Liu Zihou's epitaph, which not only described Liu Zongyuan's family background, behavior and political achievements, but also highly praised his talent and conduct. His friendship was sincere and full of regret.

The best friends are also two independent individuals. Real friends know how to face up to each other's differences and understand each other. They don't have to try to convince each other of their own views, and they don't have to deliberately cater to people. Don't give directions to people, and don't obey others' arrangements in everything. Have a common topic and maintain an independent personality, so that the friend relationship can be long-term.

Some people often complain that they can't find a person who can be disturbed at any time after searching the address book. It seems a little pretentious, but people inevitably fall into a trough, especially when it is difficult to break free alone, they need to pull with both hands, even if it is just listening, it can also play a great role. Su Shi's "night tour in Chengtian Temple" recorded a communication between him and Zhang Huaimin: "on the night of October 12, the 6th year of Yuanfeng, he was ready to sleep, and the moonlight entered his house, and he set out happily. Those who wanted to be happy with nothing went to Chengtian Temple to find Zhang Huaimin. Huaimin also didn't sleep, and walked with each other in the atrium. Under the court, it was like water and water, algae in the water, not cross horizontal, and covered with bamboo and cypress shadows. Why is there no moon in the night? Where is there no bamboo and cypress? But few idle people were like the ears of the two of us." Su Shi was ready to go to bed, but when he saw the moonlight entering his house, he suddenly became interested in traveling at night. However, a person didn't feel happy, so he thought of his best friend zhanghuaimin, and went to Chengtian temple to find him. Without any preparation, just on a whim. And just the other party did not sleep, also have the same state of mind.

Many people don't lack friends. They can go shopping, party together, revel together and laugh together. And when this bustle comes to an end, is there anyone willing to listen to your sadness hidden in the bottom of your heart? When you find someone waiting there all the time, you find a bosom friend. Just like Zhang Huaimin to Su Shi, I think of you when I think of nothing and happiness.

The most advanced friends, without much to say, may not contact for a long time, but both sides will not be suspicious and will not worry about gain and loss. And once something happens, even if it's just because you're unhappy, you can share it anytime and anywhere. You don't care about receiving a reply immediately, but you know that the other party will be happy to see you happy. Having such a friend is like a spring breeze.

Wei Yingwu's "send a Taoist in Quanjiao mountain" begins with "it's cold in the county at present, and I suddenly miss the tourists in the mountain". It is hard to avoid loneliness in the autumn season, and I miss my old friend in the wind and rain. It is not necessary to meet or even make them aware. Even if the poet said, "the fallen leaves are all over the empty mountain, where to find traces", it may not be true that he can't find him, but he doesn't stick to meeting each other. It seems cold, but it shows warmth. This kind of deep friendship cannot be realized unless you are a confidant. As Zhang Chonghe said, "I'm very cold and have a bosom friend". I'm close and close.

The most comfortable relationship between friends is not to send a message in seconds, but that I know you will reply when you see it or when you are free. Not being tired of being together every day is intimacy. The real intimacy is knowing that there should be a distance between each other. I still have a voice. My friend said, "I'm off work now. I'm suddenly happy walking on the road." Just 6 seconds of voice, there is not much content, no cause and effect, but she suddenly felt happy and told me, and I was happy with her. There is no deep reason, just because I like it.

For real friends, they will like it from the bottom of their hearts, so they are willing to understand, simple and casual, and become smart. When you meet such a friend, please be sure to cherish it.