20 Things I Won’t Apologize For That Are Self-explanatory
An inspired spin-off of sorts
She caught my attention AND made me smile, since I’ve shoved every “About Me” prompt hellur-hard off that proverbial cliff.
But this?
Simplistic genius!
What better way to get to know someone than by first understanding them and having the know-how with respect to their personal boundaries?
I remember a time early in my life, when people generally gave respect, as standard as common courtesy.
Like ‘bedrock-ain’t-going-nowhere’ customary.
I miss those times.
Now we’re reduced to lists…kinda sorta.
And for me: A condensed list.
As per the Elizabeth Silleck La Rue format, there will be no:
· Explanations
· Dilutions
· Apologies
· Retractions
Look out for the increased probability of above-concentration ‘rant articles’ in the coming months that will not meet 60% of the qualifying rant criteria, but consist of explanations based on experiences with a lot of unholy adjectives thrown in…
Here goes, in no particular order…
1. The choice to be offline for the majority of my waking hours if I want. And “I want” a LOT.
2. Development at my pace (and not yours.)
3. Refusal to answer my door/phone/etc., when I am not expecting anyone and/or don’t know who it is.
4. Standing up, speaking out, and being friggin’ obstinate about the protection of the environment.
5. Double-timing it away from disrespect. I ain’t order none of that.
6. Being hungry and requiring an effin, legislated lunch break to eat.
7. The bruises left if ever touched without my permission.
8. Exercise of my sovereignty and autonomy.
9. Never choosing the “lesser of two evils.” Are you insane?
10. My guiding principles and morals.
11. Exiting the room if somebody is simply gonna READ off the PowerPoint. Just email it then, and hope I’m online and care that much.
12. Total absorption in a book and tuning out the world for as loooong as I need.
13. Knowing alphabetical order and how to type with all my fingers.
14. Holding people accountable for the remit tasks in their chosen employ.
15. Not pretending to like you if I don’t.
16. Keeping my inner circle small.
17. Not disclosing my sexual orientation, pronouns, marital status, or other private details like they are owed.
18. My subtropical privilege and disdain for cold climates.
19. Saying “No, thank you” and meaning it.
20. Being blessed with the type of childhood that engendered a lifelong lens to see the potential of humanity to evolve beyond greed, hate, fear, and disillusionment. I expect more. Won’t stop.
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Well, there you have it. My list in all of its cartharsis-ness…carthartic-ness? Purged-ness? Heck, it just felt gosh darn good doing it!
I highly recommend it as an exercise. Whether you choose to share it or not.
But if you do, please let me know so I can give it a look-see!
A real joy and treat to see you here reading waaaay through to the bottom! I’m sending you extra EXTRA ‘Write Vibes’ especially because of that.
Thank you in BIG bunches!
Please continue in awesomeness, and feel free to ‘read away’ on my profile if you’d like, as that would be tremendously helpful.
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Nr. 15 makes me like everyone instantly (well, unless they prove me wrong after). There's something about the people who dare to be so honest as to show if they don't like someone. It's rare.
Now this is my kind of exercise. We may just learn something about ourselves by taking part. Personal boundaries are non-negotiable. But some folks need to read the rules twice. Always trying to push buttons that are off limits to begin with. Awesome read, Dani!
Speaking your truths...you tell em Dani. Blessed be your roots.
This had to be a seperate comment. 20. Being blessed with the type of childhood that engendered a lifelong lens to see the potential of humanity to evolve beyond greed, hate, fear, and disillusionment. I expect more. Won’t stop. I get so much SHIT for this. From myself and others. This hits me so hard in this time in history. The fact that borderline EXPECT and DEMAND that EVERYONE know. Rape is wrong. Kidnapping is wrong. Kicking puppies is wrong. I do not understand how people in this world are still acting like pre-historic apes instead of HUMANS. And I'm so unapologetic about ripping that out there in the universe. But I've gotten SO MUCH SHIT - because the way my mother raised me - She taught me that kindness is obvious. And wrong and right is obvious. And I get told I am naive and ridiculous to imagine one day a world without racism, one where we embrace our differences and know that those differences are what make this world SO beautiful. But I REFUSE to give up on that. I will raise my kids the way Mama raised me. And hope it sticks. And I LOVE that you embodied this. It makes me feel less alone. And less idiotic. Thanks Judey, so much.
Some of these things NO BODY should ever apologize for . * Especially number 7. And 4 * You're subtitle says it all. It's all self-explanatory and I hope EVERYONE comes all of these conclusions. Its your life. Live it the way YOU want. And don't ever be sorry for being you.
Get it Dani! 💪🏾🫶🏾💕
This is gold, equal parts boundary‑setting brilliance and “I said what I said” energy. You walk the fine line between humor and hard truth like a pro, and honestly… it’s refreshing as hell. If everyone made a list like this, the world might just get a little clearer and a lot less noisy. Keep that fire, gal!! 💖🔥
The part about not answering the door or phone unless you’re expecting someone. YES It’s such a small thing, but it really highlights the importance of protecting your space and energy.
Back to say congratulations on your Top Story! 🎉💖🎊🎉💖🎊
When people would complain to my dad about him not answering his cell phone, he’d reply, “I have that phone for my convenience, not yours.”
Very good for standing up for who you are. I so agree with #17. Why are private details like that asked on so many applications?
Omgggg, soooo many of these were freaking relatable! We are so the same hehehehehe
This is so great. I was relating so much to some of these. I used to think I overreacted when someone starts reading a Powerpoint, so thanks for that one. I just told someone at a class reunion to stop touching me. And my new favorite line..."I ain't order none of that." SO many life applications!