Mastering the Art of Breaking Invisible Walls Around You

How Can We Overcome Invisible Walls?

In our lives, there are many walls we feel strongly about or continue to face without realizing it.

Once we bump into these invisible walls, we just remember their existence.

Usually, even if we bump into them, we accept them and continue with our lives. Soon after, we forget about them.

However, those walls we forget, later transform into new forms we might call experiences or traumas, occasionally reminding us of their presence.

The walls we’ve built in our minds start creating barriers at decision points.

The Outcome…

Unless we eliminate these barriers, we will undoubtedly be copying and pasting them into different aspects of our lives.

In other words, the walls we ignore constantly turn into new barriers to our lives in diverse formats.

Whether we make this transformation process cyclical or stop it is only in our hands.

Just being aware is not enough.

On the other hand, being aware but taking no action means accepting the vicious cycle.

This is fatalism.

Accepting it and then entering the complaint cycle without doing anything is simply whining.

Expecting someone to calm our complaints by giving us candy or ice cream is victim psychology.

It’s not a solution; it just dramatizes events.

After all, we always love drama…

You are not the Only Victim

The story is familiar, very familiar.

If it’s not us, it’s a very close friend, colleague, family member, or partner. However, in general, the first option is us.

When we don’t pursue these barriers, we choose the easy way out.

We expect good things to happen to us without doing anything.

We want to be successful without effort.

We want to live like others but wish for these things to come to us.

In short, we want to achieve many things without making any effort.

My Solution

I don’t know if all these barriers will be resolved, but I found a solution for my own barriers.

The first step is to declare, “I will solve this.”

I liken them to the sheep jumps we used to count to fall asleep as children.

The goal of this day is clear: to successfully leap over that fence, to overcome that invisible wall, and to get closer to our goals, especially ourselves.

Let me support this with an example:

In my life, there was generally no meaning in doing activities alone (this may seem silly to you, I know).

Going out alone, sightseeing, going to the cinema, attending concerts, etc.

I realized that this was also a barrier.

I understood that when I couldn’t find someone to accompany me, I didn’t do those activities, and because I didn’t do them, I felt unhappy.

Overcoming this wasn’t easy for me because I had never included such an option in my life.

You know, trying something new for the first time makes everyone nervous.

I knew I could overcome this; I just needed to take that first step.

And I did.

Although it’s a simple example, I see it as a success for myself because I realized I had made it into a huge deal inside me.

At that moment, I felt very happy and declared the day as my crossing day for myself.

Doing this also encouraged me to break down the invisible walls I had created in my mind.

Now, I have a list of those walls, and I am already setting my new “crossing days” to break them down.

I know that breaking them all down one by one won’t be easy, but I have identified the invisible ones and taken the first step.

Now, it’s time to take action to break them down.

I don’t believe that starting is half the battle. Because I started but couldn’t finish.

I think what matters is how much the task you started appeals to you.

If you can find a place for yourself in that story, you will strive to finish it.

If we want to be the hero of our own lives, we need to write our own story.

Are you courageous enough to set a “crossing days” for yourself to demolish your invisible walls?