Vulnerability

Vulnerability:Strength Or Weakness

By

Adetoro Favour

•Introduction

Vulnerability is a complicated term that influences human connections and experiences. The foundation of vulnerability is embracing openness, honesty and emotional risk-taking, which can lead to stronger relationships, personal growth and true connection.

•My Journey with Vulnerability

I'll never forget the time I loved someone with all of my being. I was quite vulnerable disclosing private facts about my life, including previous traumas, troubles, personal struggles and darkest fears. I trusted this individual with my deepest ideas, believing that they would understand and support me. However, instead of empathy I received treachery. This person eventually colluded with a friend, betraying my trust and told me. I was never beneficial to them. The pain was unbearable, when you’re vulnerable to wrong individuals vulnerability looks like weakness.

•The Power of Vulnerability

Vulnerability, despite it’s dangers is a necessary component of any meaningful relationship whether platonic, romantic or professional. Being vulnerable allows the growth of understanding, empathy and trust. What I've come to realize is that vulnerability is a strength but only when shared with the right person. When you're with someone who doesn't

respect or appreciate your openness, it can become a weakness, a point of exploitation and emotional blackmail.

•Redefining Vulnerability

For me, the painful side of love has been traumatic especially from family and friends. Even though I've experienced the beautiful side of love, the memories of hurt and betrayal linger. My heart still feels heavy when I receive texts from those who hurt me. It's as if my mind is wired to associate love with pain. However, I've learned that love is not inherently bad. It's the people we choose to share it with that can make all the difference. Love can be a source of strength, comfort and joy but it requires vulnerability, trust and respect.

•Finding Self-Worth

Never seek validation from people!

Growing up, I struggled to find my place in the world. I was constantly seeking validation from others, whether it was family, friends or romantic partners. But no matter how hard I tried, I always seemed to come up short. It was as if I was living in a constant state of inadequacy, never quite measuring up to others expectations, but then something shifted inside of me. I realized that I had been looking for love and acceptance in all the wrong places. I was always a kind and compassionate person, but

when I allowed my emotions to dictate my actions, they saw me as weak. In school, I struggled to balance my emotions with the need to appear strong. My vulnerability, once a strength, became a target for others. I had been trying to fill the void within me with external validation, rather than turning to the one place where true love and acceptance reside(God). I realized too late that I had given others the power to define my worth, by letting my emotions control me, I inadvertently sent the message that I was fragile and easily manipulated.

However, I've since i learned that vulnerability is not weakness; it's a sign of strength and courage. It takes bravery to open oneself up to the risk of hurt and rejection. I've come to understand that my worth and identity does not come from external validation but from within. I am more than my emotions; I am a unique and valuable individual, deserving of love and respect regardless of my vulnerability.

Conclusion

Vulnerability is a powerful strength that promotes true connections, personal development, and general well-being. Embracing vulnerability gives us the strength to confront mistakes, admit faults and find areas for progress. This results in more meaningful connections, higher emotional intelligence, and a better understanding of oneself and others. Finally, vulnerability is a powerful driver for growth, healing and transformation,

enabling us to live a more real, wholehearted and fulfilling life.

If you choose to be vulnerable be smart about it do not make mistakes. Extra force is not supposed to define you let God be the lead.