Dysfunctionality

What is Dysfunctionality? Dysfunctionality refers to the harmful patterns of behavior, emotions and thoughts that can arise from traumatic experiences, unhealthy relationships, and societal expectations. It's like having a broken toy that doesn't do what it's supposed to do. Imagine you have a family where;

- Mom and Dad always fight and shout at each other.

- Your siblings are mean to you and make you feel bad.

- You're always scared or worried at home.

That's an example of dysfunctionality. It's when the people who are supposed to love and care for you aren't doing a good job, and it makes you feel unhappy, scared or confused.

The Effects of Patriarchal Mentality Impact On Dysfunctionality .

The far-reaching consequences of patriarchal mentality are often overlooked. The trauma and emotional distress inflicted upon women are disregarded and their experiences are minimized. It is essential to acknowledge and address these issues rather than perpetuating harmful stereotypes and expectations. I recall a conversation with a woman who shared a disturbing anecdote about her mother's entrenched patriarchal beliefs. Her mother emphatically stated that a woman cannot build a house without a man's involvement. This mentality, perpetuated by societal norms and cultural expectations, is damaging and pervasive. Numerous instances of toxic masculinity have come to my attention, where men exhibit a blatant disregard for women's autonomy

Unpacking the Legacy of Dysfunctionality.

As I reflect on my personal journey, I've come to understand that dysfunctionality is a deeply ingrained aspect of our lives. Despite our best efforts to move forward, the scars of past traumas and unconscious patterns continue to shape our experiences.

• A Personal Reflection: Through introspection, I've come to realize that dysfunctionality is an inherent part of our lives, often perpetuated by unresolved trauma and unconscious patterns. Despite my efforts to overcome past experiences, I've acknowledged the presence of dysfunctionality in my own life.

Healing from Dysfunctionality: Reflecting on my personal journey, I've come to realize the profound impact of my environment on my life. The experiences and interactions I had growing up significantly influenced my thought patterns, behavior, and self-perception.

The Role of Supportive Relationships: I've been fortunate to have friends who have played a vital role in my healing journey. Their unwavering support, encouragement and empathy have helped me navigate the complexities of dysfunctionality.

Strategies for Healing:

The healing process might not be easy but you have to be intentional and acknowledge the area of dysfunctionality, then you can apply the strategies below. Some key strategies for healing include:

1. Surrounding yourself with positive influences

2. Creating a conducive environment

3. Accountability

4. Seeking mentorship

5. Self Reflection

Healing from dysfunctionality also includes; , Mindfulness,Boundary setting, Seeking professional help and Engaging in self-care.

One of the most effective way is to listen to things that will bring out your best like listening to podcast/messages that will help you heal.

I hope this helps, remember you’re not alone.