xiehanxing
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If you are like me, sometimes you wonder if you would be a different person now if there were a little change in your past life. Let's learn and grow together. Let's become friends
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How do you describe love in the '80s?
When I talk about "love" at the age of 19, I can only be regarded as a childish face. There is no puppy love, no first love, no ambiguity, and naturally there is no love. Can only say that I am a "expect" Plato type love, from now to the once upon a time, I did not encounter too me is perfect individual, I can understand, but still can't do tolerance and accommodation of the eternal, although everything seems to be is my "wishful thinking" unilateral idea, but I always questioned how two individuals together, And have depended on each other for half a lifetime or more... I think this lack of confidence and uncertainty about the future is a big reason for the emergence of marriage phobes. The reason why Mr. Zheng's Love in the 1980s does not have a perfect romantic ending is that I think this "lack of confidence" and "fear of the unknown" are accomplices. The age can suppress people's growth, growth can suppress people's thoughts, and thoughts can suppress the burst of love.
By xiehanxing3 years ago in Families
What is love
What is love? The meaning of love is very broad, can be friendship, family, love...... Perhaps the most interesting of these is love? Then I might as well say love. Love is the most wonderful word, how many people are struggling to pursue, sometimes people put love more important than life. But what is love? How many people really have eternal love? How many people spend their whole lives looking for it? Love may be the feeling of love at first sight, love may be the feeling of body, love may be the feeling of life and death together...... Love is an endless topic. When you love a person, your heart is scared and uneasy, you do not know the feelings of the other side, you have to hide their feelings, because you are a reserved person. Maybe you had love is a shadow of your heart, you have to put on a dream of clothes, you revel in the illusion of the dream don't want to wake up, long lingering, travelling, when you know each other's feelings, all have the wind light cloud light, because you have walked out of his shadow, his coat and luxuriant, no longer love you embrace has lost its luster, Your life is now gray. When I don't have the experience of loving others, I think, "Loving others is really enjoyable." When I was loved, I thought: "To be loved is really a kind of happiness!" But whether love and be loved, are so sad, because the heart is always so unpredictable, desire is always so things for her, can only be passed by. Nothing can reach deep into her heart. Just like a decadent and dim flower, with a desperate gesture but a naive face, smiling at all the cruelty and humiliation. Deep dark green is no tears. Such a flower always open in the dark do not believe in tears, it is destined to be alone. Often, in a crowded sea of people, feel the extension, sound, smell of many strangers, chaos and noise. And calm down to see, to listen, to feel difficult to fill, with love and love there is a struggle in the vortex of emotion, with love and love is also more emotional world entanglement. The wrong car of love and being loved, the incomprehension of love and being loved, the restriction of love and being loved, the helplessness of love and being loved... The vast land, for a disappointed in the world and no love in the heart, where is not the same? Always walk in the road, all the love, suddenly will find that there is nothing here. Empty and silent. There are many people who are soulless. Mediocre life, no purpose, do not know why to live. From the spermatocyte that does not know fate moves toward, arrive two individual newborn that do not implicate each other, all the way clutch and match interweave achievement a paragraph of marriage. Do not blaspheme love, do not regard love as a kind of play, really will find it is a kind of magical existence. From the youth animation and youth idol drama in a variety of young people began to know love, grow up a little, then began to pay attention to the love of parents, now, more want to understand the grandfather and grandmother, their older generation of love. My grandmother, who is now in her 80s, got married half a century ago. About her marriage, she only told me: "The matchmaker introduced me, and we met once across the river, and it was done." Just the opposite side of the river, the two people contributed to a family, this kind of marriage, this kind of love can be said to be hasty, can also be said to be simple, simple, compared with the free love of parents, I do not feel that the love of grandparents is any inferior. Therefore, for me, the truly touching love is not how romantic the encounter is, how luxurious the wedding is, or how sad the ending is, but when we are together, we love each other deeply, respect each other and are responsible for each other.
By xiehanxing3 years ago in Humans
What is love?
What is love? The meaning of love is very broad, can be friendship, family, love...... Perhaps the most interesting of these is love? Then I might as well say love. Love is the most wonderful word, how many people are struggling to pursue, sometimes people put love more important than life. But what is love? How many people really have eternal love? How many people spend their whole lives looking for it? Love may be the feeling of love at first sight, love may be the feeling of body, love may be the feeling of life and death together...... Love is an endless topic. When you love a person, your heart is scared and uneasy, you do not know the feelings of the other side, you have to hide their feelings, because you are a reserved person. Maybe you had love is a shadow of your heart, you have to put on a dream of clothes, you revel in the illusion of the dream don't want to wake up, long lingering, travelling, when you know each other's feelings, all have the wind light cloud light, because you have walked out of his shadow, his coat and luxuriant, no longer love you embrace has lost its luster, Your life is now gray. When I don't have the experience of loving others, I think, "Loving others is really enjoyable." When I was loved, I thought: "To be loved is really a kind of happiness!" But whether love and be loved, are so sad, because the heart is always so unpredictable, desire is always so things for her, can only be passed by. Nothing can reach deep into her heart. Just like a decadent and dim flower, with a desperate gesture but a naive face, smiling at all the cruelty and humiliation. Deep dark green is no tears. Such a flower always open in the dark do not believe in tears, it is destined to be alone. Often, in a crowded sea of people, feel the extension, sound, smell of many strangers, chaos and noise. And calm down to see, to listen, to feel difficult to fill, with love and love there is a struggle in the vortex of emotion, with love and love is also more emotional world entanglement. The wrong car of love and being loved, the incomprehension of love and being loved, the restriction of love and being loved, the helplessness of love and being loved... The vast land, for a disappointed in the world and no love in the heart, where is not the same? Always walk in the road, all the love, suddenly will find that there is nothing here. Empty and silent. There are many people who are soulless. A mediocre life without a purpose.
By xiehanxing3 years ago in Families
What kind of love is love?
Love is a strong attachment, closeness, longing, and selfless and inexhaustible affection between individuals (mostly refers to people). It is usually the contrast between love and desire. Love is composed of love and love. Love is the soul of love, and love is the additional attribute of love, but not necessary. The Chinese classic book "Zhou Li · Ground lawsuit acts second · Media" :" Men marry at 30, women marry at 20. If you do not give orders without cause, punish them." In the Zhou Dynasty, men married when they were thirty and women married when they were twenty. Punishment will be given to those who do not obey the rules for no reason. The "Rites of Zhou" is very rich in content, as big as the world of Kyushu, astronomical calendar; As small as canal roads, trees insect fish. All the state system, political science and law, culture and education, rites, music, military punishment, taxes, meals, clothing, sleeping temples, horses, agriculture, commerce and medicine, craft production, all kinds of famous objects, laws and regulations, systems, everything. It can be called the treasure house of Chinese culture. "Annals of Rites · Internal Rules", "Guliang Biography · Twelve Years of Wen Gong", "Gongyang Biography" and later "Shang Shu DaZhuan" and other historical books also said this, that this is the Zhou Dynasty ritual prescribed for men and women of marriageable age. Scholars of the Han Dynasty favored this view most. In Chinese culture, love is to connect the other person's heart, with the attributes of intimacy, passion, commitment, attachment and emotion, and the confidence of the long-term nature of the relationship, as well as the ability to share personal life with the other person. On the emotional basis of love, in addition to the cross-cultural differences in love, the concept of love has changed a lot over time (and has developed different characteristics in different national cultures). Love is an integral part of human nature. In a narrow sense, it refers to the love between lovers, and in a broad sense, it also includes the love between friends and relatives (love feelings). Du Zichun's Three visits to Chang 'an :" The old man fell on his feet and sighed :' People have seven feelings: emotions, passions, fears, love and evil desires. I see you do all the six feelings, but not love. Xia Yan, Guan Hanqing Immortal :" He was a man who loved real life and the masses."
By xiehanxing3 years ago in Families
