Should lovers have secrets?
We always think that two people are close when they share secrets, and that two people who love each other can only be strong when they tell each other everything, right? This is not the case. No relationship can sustain full openness and intimacy in the long run, and even if you try, it's a mistake. 1. An independent person must have secrets. Each person is first an individual, then a lover. Of course, some people can hide nothing from each other, and even can tell each other all kinds of experiences before the acquaintance without embellishment, which is indeed a pure honesty, but I believe that 90% of the people in the world can not do this. Everyone should have their own space belongs to their own little secret, the same with couples, if both sides have no secret this way to feel that they have no privacy is very uncomfortable. Therefore, as independent individuals, we all have our own comfort zone and personal space, even as lovers, it is best not to touch easily. Most of the time, revealing privacy to lovers is not to want the other party to return with similar secrets, but to hope that their honesty can cause the other party's sympathy, tolerance and acceptance. This means that in love, what people really want is not to know all the secrets of each other, but to actually feel loved by the lover and be valued by the lover. If some personal information does not need to be said, or if it is not productive or even risky, people will choose to keep it private. Imagine if your boyfriend/girlfriend insists on asking you about your relationship history, and then breaking the cassersery to find out how they met you, how long they dated, what they looked like, what their body was like, and how they broke up with you, it won't do anything positive for your current relationship. Those irrelevant personal privacy, indeed there, but not involving principle, nor betrayal of you, it does not affect my love for you, let me not greatly discount your feelings, let it hide in my heart what is the problem? 3. Keep some secrets to make each other more interesting Everyone should have their own space that no one else can pry. Not all things to share with lovers is to be honest, and the sincerity between couples is not only to share their secrets.
