Sammy Randhawa

The Epic Man

Growing up men tend to be under a lot of pressure. We are constantly competing against each other. Who will be the best from the rest.? We are expected to be epic in a variety of things. We aren't allowed to cry because that makes us look sensitive. Instead we are told to suck it up princess. Is being emotional considered to be weak. We are told its time to wipe away your tears. Its time to move on with your life. We can't even mourn properly our emotions are held in. We need to separate masculinity from leadership. The pressure from that is causing men to be overly manly. We have issues balancing our masculine and feminine. Some men are forced into leadership roles due to certain circumstances. They don’t have a choice because life gave them lemons. For example if a parent dies all of sudden. The boy has to become a man pretty quick. He has to take over the leadership role . Something he isn’t used to at all. If he has another family member that is critically ill. Who is going to pay the bills? Obviously it will be the son or daughter who has to work and pay them. When life throws things at you keep thinking positive. Growing up we are told to be epic in sports. Even though sports isn't what interests us. Why are parents so competitive? A child could be just a beginner in sports and parents expect so much. Is it because the parents have their own insecurity issues? Or are they demanding more from their child. We are still overcoming the fears instilled in us as a child. The reason parents are demanding they didn't get to do things when they were young. So the expectations are even higher now from their Child. Not all men are born athletes everyone is gifted and unique in different ways. Your child could be gifted or talented in something else. You wont know until you communicate and get to know your child. Due to lack of Confidence men suffer in today's society. We all want the best for our kids as a parent. Men are told be epic in studies. If your not a honor student society wont accept you. There are Men who have university degrees and they flip burgers. There are men committing suicide due to not being able. To handle pressure from their parents and society. They felt they were absolute failures and not good enough. So they ended their life why is that? The letter grades shouldn’t decide your fate unfortunately its true. Why is there so much competition to get jobs. Why make your child compete with other kids. The parents telling them hey you have to be a lawyer, a doctor, like your relatives son or daughter. They are forced to pursue something they don't want to do. They just do things to make their parents happy.If we don't achieve the results expected from us. There is a aftermath that men have to face. We are told we are a epic fail. We cant be anything in our life ever. The Confidence gets killed and the urge to pursue the dreams. Men are expected to be epic in bed. We do our best to provide for our family its still not enough. If we don't perform well we get thrown under the bus. We also suffer health wise while trying to get ahead in life. Men also lose out on life working so much. We tend to sit in regret because our life past by quick. Men's emotions and insecurities play a big part in society. Why is so much expected from Men? Is society or circumstances to blame. Where is the Justice for us? Justice would be served if society didn’t put a lot of pressure on men. So they didn’t have to be something that are not. Men can be allowed to be their true self . We should be allowed be us and accepted in society.