Sahajamal Rume
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Dark Roast: The Strength We Grow Into. Content Warning.
I wouldn't offer her a sweet latte or a safe cup of tea if I could sit across from my younger self at a quiet café table with the scent of roast beans and soft regrets filling the air. I would serve her a dark roast. She probably would look at it suspiciously, curious, cautious, and unsure if she is prepared for it. I used to prefer simple, sweet things when I was younger. She avoided bitterness in life and coffee alike. She craved comfort, predictability, and approval. She did not yet comprehend that the most meaningful flavors in life are not always sweet and that depth comes with discomfort. Like the person I became, dark roast coffee is bold, intense, and shaped by fire. It has endured the heat. Dark roast beans are roasted for a longer time—until their sugars caramelize and their flavors deepen into rich, earthy, smoky notes—in contrast to lighter roasts, which are less acidic and have flavors that are brighter and more delicate. It's thought by some to be too bitter. Too strong. However, I now appreciate what it represents. To accept complexity is to drink dark roast. To acknowledge that something's beauty lies not in its perfection but rather in its resilience. And so, if I were to hand my younger self that cup, I’d do so with a small smile and a quiet truth: This is who you’re becoming.
By Sahajamal Rume10 months ago in Writers
The Psychology of Love and Letting Go. Content Warning.
Letting Go and Love: A Psychology One of the most profound feelings we can experience is love. It is intoxicating, powerful, and very human. Poetry has written about it, science has studied it, and the heart has lived it. Letting go, on the other hand, is the equivalent of love but is far less romanticized. Psychologically, the process of loving and letting go are inextricably linked, revealing profound truths about attachment, identity, and emotional development. The Art of Attachment Research Attachment is the core of love. Humans are wired to form emotional bonds from birth. According to the attachment theory of psychologist John Bowlby, our relationships with caregivers in our early years influence how we interact with others throughout our lives. While insecure attachments can lead to anxious or avoidant behaviors, secure attachments lead to healthier adult relationships. Dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin are among the chemicals that our brains release when we fall in love, resulting in feelings of pleasure, security, and trust. Even when these neurochemical bonds are no longer serving us, love can be so difficult to let go of that it feels addictive. Why it hurts to let go Letting go, especially of someone we’ve loved deeply, triggers a form of grief. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, a psychiatrist, says that we can go through cycles of denial, rage, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance. But unlike bereavement caused by death, the end of a romantic relationship often comes with ambiguity—questions of “what if,” “why,” and “what now?”
By Sahajamal Rume10 months ago in History
