Medlyn

Marital Status

What is in a title? Marital title that is. Until I separated and subsequently divorced, I had no adverse emotions surfacing about being classified as having, or not having a marital status. I was married at 21 and had been married for 35 years, way longer than I’ve been single. However once that dynamic changed, I found I resented being pigeonholed into the category of “separated” and “divorced” but couldn’t fathom the logic as to why. They are just words, right? Was it just me? Was it a gender reaction? Was it an age thing? Had I not asked for this divorce? I found the negative emotion and anger disturbing because I had no idea where it came from.