Jada Calderon

My cousin is seeing my ex of five years

I dated this girl for five years. We met in Florida when I was about 16 going on 17 and she was 18 at the time. It was great , we dated for about a year but I knew I wanted to move back to Philadelphia my home town. I told her she does not have to come and it is not a requirement. She decides she wants to come with me and try. We were both young kids in love. So the first two years were great , amazing but I was young and couldn’t stand the thought of settling down and being with one girl. Time goes on and we’re still together but we but knew it wasn’t the same as it was. A situation happened and we could no longer live with my mother which is where we were from 2018-2021. So October of 2021 we move in with my aunt and her kids. So my girlfriend gets close with my cousin and I don’t like it cause I clearly could tell he liked her. She would tell me all the time that I’m delusional and that she isn’t capable of something like that. Fast forward to January 2022 we break up. It was sad but hey we spent five years together and it just wasn’t working. Let me just say I wasn’t perfect but to remind you I was younger then her and I was providing for her. Taking care of her and all her needs. Her parents hated me for no reason so they showed her no support and would verbally abuse her and call me names and she never defended me. I went to war for this girl , right or wrong i was always there defending her ! So what happened next Kinda mind fucked me. So my cousin and I Justin , grew up like brother and sister. I tied his shoes because he never learned , he peed the bed til we were 10. When he had holes in his socks I bought him new ones. Always ordered for him because he was too shy. This dude and my ex who I took care have the nerve to start this weird relationship after she goes back to Florida. So after she leaves I notice Justin talking to her more , FaceTiming her and I’m like dude that’s my ex , don’t you think that’s weird ? He gets defensive and starts getting mad. My ex and I left on good terms but after all the foul things she’s done to me we have and will never talk. So they get really close and he plays in my face. I had to literally drag it out of him. When he finally confirms that he is in love with my ex and has been the entire time I’ve been with her, it makes me sick. How could my blood relative want to be with someone I spent five years with. Someone I made memories with , shared intimate moments, how could he just want my thanksgiving leftovers like that. What makes me mad is they both gaslit me because I felt this way long before my ex even left. It was like a gut feeling ! And to this day I still try to wrap my head around how my ex and cousin who was like my brother think it’s normal or even okay to talk or date one another, and the sad part is they hide it. If you’re gonna do something so foul you might as well be proud and do it with your chest. It also makes me think , what could have happened with them while I was with her or even before she left cause we weren’t on the greatest terms. But he goes as low as flirting/dating my cousin. And when I found out , I tried to call her and she refused to answer cause she’s a coward and she knows everything I said to her was right about him liking her. Then my ex is gonna get mad that I actually did move on and was happy. She stated “ how could she move on so fast” as if she wasn’t seeing my cousin. Not only that but 3 months after I found out , my two cousins took a trip to Florida and can you guess who he seen ? Yup my ex of five years. Then my ex posted them on her story and all these people were messaging me. To my ex , I have no respect for her, she showed me her true colors and proved to me I was always right about her being grimey. To my cousin , I have no words. He seem nothing wrong with he , he said he couldn’t help how he felt. And his emotions. So the entire five years I spent with me ex , he was just waiting to make a move. But hey they deserve each other , both sick individuals. Well if you actually read this thanks for coming to my Ted talk !