Darasimi Atilade
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How to make stress your friend
I must admit something. I would like you to tell me a small confession first, though. If you haven't had a lot of stress in the last year, please simply raise your hand. Someone? What about a healthy dose of stress? Who has gone through a stressful period? Yes. Also me. That isn't my confession, though. I'll be honest with you: I work as a health psychologist, and my goal is to make people happy and healthy. However, I worry that what I've been teaching for the past ten years—which has to do with stress—is actually doing more harm than good. I've been telling folks for years that stress leads to illness. Everything from the common cold to cardiovascular illness is more likely as a result of it. I've essentially made stress my adversary. However, I want to change your perspective on stress today because I have changed mine. Let me begin with the study that caused me to reconsider how I handle stress in general. "How much stress have you experienced in the last year?" was the first question posed to participants in an eight-year study, which followed 30,000 adults in the United States. "Do you believe that stress is harmful for your health?" was another question they posed. After that, they looked up the deceased using public death records. (laughing) Alright. First, some awful news. Individuals with high levels of stress in the past year were 43 percent more likely to die.
By Darasimi Atilade2 years ago in Art
How to Overcome indecision
[Music] A story from the 14th century describes a very thirsty and hungry donkey that finds a bucket of hay and some water. Confused, the donkey stares at both and is unable to decide which to eat first—the hay or the water. Time goes by, and the poor donkey is still unable to make a decision, so eventually it dies from chronic indecision or chronic thirst and starvation. In the twenty-first century, how many of us still experience that indecision donkey syndrome occasionally? We exaggerate little issues, fail to consider the long-term effects of our choices, and are immobilized at the prospect of making a mistake. As a behavioral scientist with thirty years of experience in the corporate world, I have read a wide variety of books and articles on decision making. The majority of them explain how to make a decision that is better or more intelligent, but very few actually explain the process of making a decision. any decision when you're feeling mentally stuck, but what if you could just figure out why you're having trouble deciding? Well, then, everyone can learn to overcome uncertainty and make confident decisions.
By Darasimi Atilade2 years ago in Motivation
Six behaviors to increase your confidence
Written by Glenny Lapaix Commentator: Vivian Lim My mother asked me to buy pizza for the family one Friday night while I was a high school student. I quickly gave my older brother the phone to make the call after finding the number in the phone directory. I was too hesitant to approach strangers. Let's fast-forward to my first time away from my tiny town—college at the University of Illinois. Too homesick to join in on the early freshman party scene, I spent the first few weeks of my freshman year crying in my dorm room. I wanted to give up my major, return to my little town, and trade in my books after the one frat party I went to, which was really disappointing. I didn't have the self-assured actions I required to go for my desire yet. I too desired that kind of assurance when I observed the self-assured kids strolling around campus with their heads held high, chasing goals they had set out to accomplish.
By Darasimi Atilade2 years ago in Futurism
How to achieve your most ambitious goals
By a show of hands, Queenie Lee was the reviewer and translator, Oriel Yu. How many of you think that using just a pencil and sheet of paper, you could draw this same picture of Brad Pitt? I'll walk you through the process now. And in doing so, I will impart to you the knowledge and abilities required to become a professional artist. Additionally, it shouldn't take longer than fifteen seconds. How many of you think you could reproduce this image of a solid gray square, though, before I do that? Every single one of us, laughing. You can also make two, three, or nine gray squares if you can only make one. In actuality, it would be extremely difficult to argue that you couldn't manufacture every gray square required to replicate the image in its whole if you could only make one. There you have it, then. I just taught you the abilities you need to become a top-tier artist. (laughing) I understand your thoughts.
By Darasimi Atilade2 years ago in Art
How to fix a broken heart
Almost everyone experiences heartbreak at some point in their lives. When my patient Kathy was a middle school student, she began to plan her wedding. By the age of 27, she would meet her future husband, and the following year, they would become engaged and married. However, Kathy didn't find a husband when she was 27. A lump in her breast was discovered. She endured torturous surgery and hard chemotherapy for several months before having to start the dating process over again when she discovered a lump in her other breast. But Kathy was better, and as soon as her eyebrows grew back in, she was ready to start looking for a husband again. In New York City, it's important to be able to communicate a variety of emotions during first dates. (laughing) She met Rich soon after and the two fell in love. The partnership fulfilled all of her expectations. Rich made appointments at their favorite romantic restaurant six months later, following a wonderful weekend spent in New England. Kathy was giddy with anticipation, knowing he would pop the question. However, Rich declined Kathy's proposal that evening. He ended their relationship. Even though he had a great deal of affection for Kathy, he wasn't in love. Kathy was beyond broken. Her heart was shattered beyond repair, and now she had to recover once more. But even after the split, Kathy continued to be obsessed with Rich for five months. She still carried a deep wound in her heart. The query is: Why? Why couldn't this extraordinarily resilient and powerful lady muster the same emotional reserves that saw her through four years of cancer treatment? Why do so many of us fail in our attempts to move past heartbreak? Why do the same coping strategies that help us overcome all types of obstacles in life fail us so badly in the face of heartbreak? I have seen people of all ages and backgrounds experience all kinds of heartache in my more than 20 years of private practice, and I have discovered that when your heart is shattered, the same instincts you often rely on can repeatedly lead you astray. You just can't believe anything your mind tells you. For instance, studies on bereaved individuals have shown us that a comprehensive comprehension of the reasons behind the breakup is crucial to our capacity to move on
By Darasimi Atilade2 years ago in Longevity
The Asian secret to studying Effectively
everyone is a student including you lifelong learning is a Life School essential for making progress towards your goals discovering new things and ultimately finding yourself and right now in this moment I have to study for the education system as I'm sure many of you have to as well.
By Darasimi Atilade2 years ago in Art
