Damn Pam

Breaking Up with Self Doubt

So I recently decided to begin the journey of breaking up with self-doubt. Let’s be real, self-doubt has kept us all from doing what it is we really want to do with our lives. We come up with great ideas to begin the planning process but never do the necessary leg work because we let our inner negative thoughts deter us. Self-doubt is normal but we have to come up with ways to overcome the fear. One thing I found out about myself is a lot of my self-doubt came from me not wanting to step out of comfort zone. I consider myself to be a pretty independent person and I don’t like asking for help unless I really have no choice. I am a single mother so I’ve always played it safe. So for years, I used the excuse of having children to stop me from taking pursuing a lot of my dreams and goals. Because I now know that about myself, every day I have started challenging myself to one thing a day that takes me out of my comfort zone. These things are sometimes small but it allows me to get a feel of myself mentally and emotionally doing something different. Knowing yourself also plays a major role in self-doubt. Sometimes we think we know ourselves or think we know what we want for ourselves based on other outside factors, but we haven’t taken the time to do a self-report inventory. Just because your zodiac sign is Gemini doesn’t mean you have to feed into the stereotype of having a split personality. Just because you come from a family of nurses doesn’t mean you have to be a nurse. Learn yourself and you’ll find out your true passion. Learning yourself requires some honesty that may be a tough pill to swallow. So after coming up with the topic for today’s episode, I asked several people why they often doubt themselves and a lot of people said “Lack of confidence.” I found this answer interesting because the definition of self-doubt is “lack of confidence in oneself or one's abilities.” Not being confident in your actions will kill your goals every time. I found that the most common way to overcome lack of confidence is believing in yourself. If you keep the mindset of "I’m not where I use to be," you’ll go far with accomplishing your goals.