The more you like her ，The less you talk to her like that

Many men find conversing with a woman they are attracted to quite challenging. Often, conversations end awkwardly, leaving the men clueless about what they should discuss. Moreover, it feels deeply disheartening when a woman's response seems indifferent or aloof. However, changing your conversational approach could turn these encounters into engaging, effortless exchanges.

1.Contrarian Thinking

Most men, especially those lacking experience, tend to follow the woman's thought process in conversation, leaving them in a passive state. For instance:

Her: "I'm planning to go shopping."

Him: "Where are you going?"

Him: "Who are you going with?"

Him: "What did you buy?"

Such repetitive responses bore women, leading them to disengage over time. By adopting contrarian thinking, one can offer surprising responses based on the woman's statement, spurring curiosity. For example:

Him: "Got your paycheck and hit the stores right away? Who could outspend you?"

Or you could comment on the repercussions of shopping:

Him: "Maybe you should shop less. It affects other people's relationships."

She would certainly be puzzled: "How can my shopping affect others?"

Him: "When you shop, other guys can't help but stare, leading to arguments with their girlfriends when they get home."

Such a contrary approach will leave her surprised, igniting her curiosity, prolonging conversations, and might even lead her to initiate chats with you.

2.Divergent Thinking

Since women understand other women better, just as men do, adopting a female approach in conversations might work wonders. Most men think linearly, focusing on logic, especially when solving problems. Women, however, tend to think divergently, caring more about feelings. This distinction often leads to awkward silences in conversations.

For instance:

Her: "I'm eating."

Him: "Is it tasty?"

Such close-ended questions leave room only for a simple "Yes" or "No," abruptly halting the conversation. Using the woman's divergent thinking, you can stretch the discussion. For example:

Her: "I'm eating."

Him: "You should eat more, you've become so thin."

Here, you not only compliment her figure but also extend the conversation.

Many men, overwhelmed by the excitement of a woman's response, may chat excessively or send regular "Good morning" or "Good night" messages without considering the woman's preferences. This could create pressure and alienate her. Therefore, when you encounter a woman you like, stay calm, measure your responses, and try these new ways of thinking. You might find that she grows increasingly fond of you.

Summary

Does a girl liking to chat with you necessarily mean she's in love? Of course not, it might be because she's lonely. Conversely, does a girl not liking to chat with you necessarily mean she's not in love? The answer is also not necessarily.

So don't get caught up in why a girl doesn't reply to your messages. You should seriously consider why your interactions, whether in conversation or in person, lead to you being neglected, left on read, or blocked. Identify the issues you've found within yourself and work on improving and learning from them.

In any case, not everyone feels comfortable starting a conversation. It might take more than a couple of interactions to gauge her impression of you, to determine whether or not she's comfortable. If she's always able to match your timing in conversation, it proves she's comfortable. However, if her responses are slow or she doesn't want to reply at all, it indicates that she isn't very concerned about you, which means she probably doesn't feel comfortable.

Of course, a girl's slow responses to messages aren't necessarily for this reason alone. There could be other factors. So again, don't get stuck on why a girl doesn't reply to your messages. When chatting with a girl, avoid using harsh words, don't dwell on the irrelevant, and focus more on saying pleasing things. When you recognize her strengths, make sure to compliment her appropriately. Try to cheer her up when she's upset, and make her happy.

If you really struggle with chatting with girls, then you should practice talking to more of them. Experience accumulates slowly, and once you learn how to master conversation, the right girl will appear in your life. That's it for today's sharing. If you have any thoughts, feel free to leave a comment.