If They Care, You’ll Know. If They Don’t, You’ll Feel It.

Everyone has different values, ways of handling things, and priorities. Naturally, this leads to different attitudes in relationships. Some people believe that "keeping a distance is a form of respect," while others think that "being close is the real way to show you care." There’s no one right way to cherish someone—the key is whether you can accept how the other person expresses it, rather than forcing them to match your own expectations.

Communication is actually simple. It doesn’t require long speeches or lectures. The best conversations give both sides a chance to speak, rather than just one person constantly talking. If someone prefers face-to-face discussions, then meet up and talk. If being ignored over text bothers you, then avoid using messages as a battleground for passive-aggressive arguments. The most comfortable relationships are those where both people feel at ease, not ones where one person is constantly making adjustments for the other.

And another thing—don’t throw your emotions at others and expect them to handle them for you. Not everyone wants to take them on, and not everyone will understand how you feel. If someone isn’t receptive, let it go. There’s no need to overthink it or start doubting yourself. The ability to maintain healthy relationships often lies in these small, unspoken boundaries.

Also, stop explaining on behalf of others. If someone misunderstands, that’s their issue to figure out. Not every misunderstanding needs to be clarified, and not every relationship is worth exhausting yourself to maintain. The same goes for professional matters—say what needs to be said, do what needs to be done, and let the other party piece the rest together. Take responsibility for what’s yours, let go of what isn’t, and focus on what truly matters.

When it comes to hierarchy, clarity is key. Everyone has their role, and responsibilities should be clearly defined. Don’t take on what isn’t yours—it only leads to unnecessary trouble and frustration. When boundaries are clear, accountability follows, and things don’t spiral into unnecessary complications.

In the Game of Adults, Even the Smallest Players Matter

The world isn’t always black and white. Sometimes, choosing a side is more important than ability itself. But being vague and indecisive can be even worse than taking a clear stance. A fence-sitter is still a fence-sitter—whether by choice or by force. That’s just reality.

相手が気にかけていれば、わかる。そうでなければ、感じるものだ

相手 (あいて) → partner, other person (the other party)；が → subject marker (marks "相手" as the subject)；気 (き) にかけていれば → if they care / if they pay attention to；気にかける → to be concerned about, to care；ていれば → if (condition), when (continuous state)；わかる → you’ll know, it becomes clear；そうでなければ → if not, if that’s not the case；そう → that way, like that (referring to caring)；でなければ → if not (negative conditional form of である = to be)；感じる (かんじる) ものだ → you will feel it, you will sense it；感じる → to feel, to sense；ものだ → it is natural that, it is expected that

신경 쓰는 사람은 티가 난다. 그렇지 않으면 느껴질 수밖에 없다.

신경 (神經) → concern, care, attention；쓰는 → who cares, who pays attention to；쓰다 → to use, to spend (in this case, "to pay attention")；-는 → present participle, modifying "사람"；사람 (사람은) → person (as the subject)；티가 난다 → it shows, it becomes obvious；**티 (tea, but used to mean "sign" or "hint")*；가 → subject marker；난다 → appears, is noticeable (from "나다" = to appear, to emerge)；그렇지 않으면 → if not, if that’s not the case；그렇다 → to be like that；지 않으면 → if not (negative conditional form)；느껴질 수밖에 없다 → you will inevitably feel it, there’s no other way；느껴지다 → to be felt (passive form of "느끼다" = to feel)；수밖에 없다 → there is no choice but to, it is inevitable that