How to Get Your Guy to Commit: 10 Ways to Increase The Chances of Getting a Ring.

If your guy is hesitant about getting married, there may be any number of reasons why. Perhaps he has been hurt by his past relationships and is cautious of moving forward. Or perhaps he’s afraid of taking that leap for another reason. No matter what his reasons are, in order to get him to commit, you will need to take a bit of a passive role in the relationship and let him know, without coming off as groveling or desperate, exactly how much you value him and want this relationship to work long term.

Communicate your intentions gently.

As with anything in a romantic relationship, the way you go about communicating your feelings is just as important as the feelings themselves. Coming off too aggressively or desperately will only frighten him away. Try to avoid bringing up marriage or commitment unless he brings it up first. This means you should avoid talking about the future of your relationship in any substantial way. Focus on enjoying the present and making each day as meaningful and special as it can be. If he does bring up marriage, you can let him know that you would love to walk down the aisle with him someday, but don’t make that the central point of your discussion. Rather, communicate that you want to grow old together and make a lasting commitment to each other.

Show him you’re worth the investment.

Let your guy know that you’re a gem that is worth the investment. If you’re not exactly sure what that means, there are a few ways you can go about doing so. - Start a side hustle. The more resources you have, the less your partner will have to shoulder in terms of finances. This includes savings, investments, etc. - Make an effort to be as independent as possible. For example, take care of yourself, don’t lean on your partner or demand money from him, and do as many things as you can on your own. - Do something selfless. Volunteering is a great way to show him you’re worth the investment and you have a heart of gold. - Offer to make improvements in the relationship. For example, if you feel he isn’t communicating well enough or often enough, offer to sit down with him and go over strategies for improving communication between the two of you.

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Be patient and find out what he wants.

As we stated above, sometimes guys don’t want to commit because they aren’t ready yet. They may still be working through childhood issues or other psychological problems that make them hesitant to take the next step. If he doesn’t seem to be warming up to the idea of marriage, but you’re sure you two are serious, there may be another reason he’s hesitant. Perhaps he’s afraid that you won’t be happy in marriage and that you’ll end up resenting him or wanting to break up. In this case, so long as you aren’t pressuring him or showing signs of desperation, he may feel more comfortable committing if he knows you have a good head on your shoulders and are realistic about what marriage entails.

Help him feel more comfortable with commitment.

As we said above, if your guy is hesitant because he’s afraid you’ll end up resenting him, there are a few things you can do to help him feel more comfortable with commitment. First, understand that everyone fears commitment, so don’t take his hesitation personally. Second, be patient. Let him know that you’re not in a rush to get married and that you want to take things at his pace. Third, communicate that you are committed to him and the relationship regardless of whether or not you get married.

Help him feel more comfortable with marriage.

If your guy is hesitant about getting married because he’s worried you won’t be happy, there are a few ways you can help him feel more comfortable with marriage. First, be patient and let him know that you’re not in a rush to get married. Second, keep in mind that he may be comparing his relationship to his parent's marriage and that he may feel pressured to live up to their example. Tell him you know he’s not his parents and that you don’t expect to have the same relationship.

Show him you’re a partner he can rely on.

If your guy is hesitant because he’s worried about inadequacy, he may be more comfortable committing if he knows you have his back and that you’re a partner he can rely on. This can be as simple as offering to help him with his work struggles, picking up his slack around the house, or making him feel confident in your ability to handle any problems that come up in your relationship. It can also mean communicating to him that you have his back and that you will always support and respect him. This can be as simple as making him feel comfortable sharing his feelings with you and allowing him to vent if he needs to or communicating to him that you’re on his side even if you don’t agree with his choices.

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Commit to him first, then set a date together.

If your guy is hesitant about getting married because he feels like getting engaged is rushing things, remind him that you want to commit to him first and that you want to set a date together. In other words, let him know that you plan to get engaged at some point in the future, but don’t push for that date. Let your guy know that you want to marry him and that you want to set a date with him when the time feels right. You can also let him know that you want to get engaged as soon as possible, but that you understand that you need to let him feel comfortable with the idea first. Keep in mind that you don’t have to propose, or even bring up marriage, right away. You can wait until you feel he’s ready to talk about it, and then, you can set a date together and let him know that you want to spend the rest of your life with him.

Conclusion

If you want to get your guy to commit, it’s important that you let him know how much he means to you and that you’re willing to commit to him fully and unconditionally. Remember that you don’t have to propose or even bring up marriage right away, but that you should let him know you want to spend the rest of your life with him. If you communicate your feelings and intentions in a gentle and patient manner and show him you’re worth the investment, he will hopefully.

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Much Love, Val