You’re "NOT" Selfish for Choosing Yourself First

In a world where we are often told to put other people first, choosing ourselves seemed like a selfish idea. From a young age, we are taught that being good means giving to others, even if it hurts us. It's like we were modeled to put others before us, even if it means being selfish to ourselves.

We often find ourselves always helping others,

even if it means sacrificing ourselves. Our hearts become wells of kindness, our hands always ready to hold them, our ears always open to listen to their stories. We are always there for other people because we believe it’s fine if we are the ones hurting and struggling, just not them.

We try to always hear their cries and hold their shaking hands in their darkest times because we know the feeling of having no one by our side when the world is harsh. We do everything to please them and not hurt them, even if it means we are at stake—our kindness is abused, our hearts are broken, our efforts go unreturned and unappreciated.

But it's tiring to be caged in the idea that we are selfish if, even for once, we choose ourselves

Someday, I hope that you’ll realize that choosing yourself is not about being selfish — it’s about recognizing that you cannot pour from an empty cup. It’s about understanding that your feelings, emotions, and peace are just as important as anyone else’s.

"Prioritizing You Isn’t a Crime!"

"Self-Care Isn’t Selfish!"

Walking away from people and situations that drain your peace is not an act of cruelty but of self-care. It’s okay to distance yourself from those people who can only take and never give. It’s okay to refuse to help when the burden is too heavy to bear alone. You are not a bad person for setting boundaries, for saying no when you need to, for choosing your own peace over anything else.

"Love Yourself Enough to Lead!"

You don’t have to be sorry for leaving and growing up. You don’t have to apologize for prioritizing your dreams and your happiness. Stepping away from things that no longer serve you is not something to apologize for.

You are not selfish for choosing you before them!

May this serve as the beginning of loving yourself, welcome home !