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“When a Man Neglects Your Feelings and Uses Silence to Control You”

“Recognizing Emotional Neglect and Standing Up for Your Worth”

By Taviii🇨🇦♐️Published 10 months ago 3 min read
“When a Man Neglects Your Feelings and Uses Silence to Control You”
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Relationships should be built on love, understanding, and mutual respect. But what happens when a man constantly neglects your feelings, gets mad at you for the smallest things, and even blocks you when things don’t go his way? This kind of behavior can leave you feeling hurt, confused, and emotionally drained.

Signs He’s Emotionally Neglecting You

1. He Dismisses Your Feelings

Anytime you express your emotions, he either ignores you, makes you feel like you’re overreacting, or tells you that you’re too sensitive. Your feelings are always second to his, and he rarely takes the time to listen.

2. He Always Plays the Victim

No matter what happens, somehow, he always finds a way to blame you. If he hurts your feelings, instead of apologizing, he flips the script and makes himself the victim.

3. He Uses Silent Treatment or Blocking as Control

Whenever there’s an argument, instead of talking things through like an adult, he blocks you. This is his way of punishing you and making you feel powerless. It’s a toxic way to handle conflict.

4. He Gets Mad When Things Don’t Go His Way

If things don’t go exactly how he wants, he throws a fit. Instead of compromising or considering your side, he reacts with anger, distance, or immature behavior.

Why This Behavior is Toxic

A man who behaves this way is emotionally immature and manipulative. He’s teaching you that your feelings don’t matter and that you must always walk on eggshells to keep him happy. Over time, this can destroy your self-esteem and make you feel like you’re the problem—when in reality, he’s the one refusing to communicate in a healthy way.

What You Can Do

• Set Boundaries: If he keeps blocking you or shutting you out, stop chasing him. A man who truly loves you will never use distance as a weapon.

• Communicate Your Needs: Let him know that a relationship requires respect on both sides. If he refuses to listen, that tells you everything you need to know.

• Know Your Worth: You deserve a man who values your feelings, not someone who throws tantrums when things don’t go his way.

• Be Ready to Walk Away: Love should never feel like a constant battle for respect. If he refuses to change, don’t waste your energy trying to fix someone who doesn’t want to be fixed.

At the end of the day, a real man will communicate, not punish. He will listen, not dismiss. And most importantly, he will respect you, not control you. Don’t settle for less.Healing and Moving Forward

If you’ve been dealing with this kind of emotional neglect, it’s important to take a step back and focus on yourself. A relationship should not feel like an emotional rollercoaster where one person always holds the power. Here’s how you can heal and move forward:

1. Stop Excusing His Behavior

It’s easy to justify his actions—telling yourself that he’s just stressed, that he loves you deep down, or that he’ll change. But the truth is, if someone truly cares about you, they will not constantly disregard your feelings or punish you with silence and distance.

2. Rebuild Your Self-Esteem

Being in a relationship with someone who constantly dismisses your feelings can make you doubt yourself. Start reminding yourself of your worth. Surround yourself with people who uplift you, engage in activities that make you happy, and practice self-love daily.

3. Recognize Toxic Patterns

If a man is always mad at you for no real reason, blocks you when he doesn’t get his way, and never considers your emotions, these are red flags. A healthy relationship doesn’t involve one person having all the control while the other is left feeling anxious and unwanted.

4. Seek Support

Talk to trusted friends or a therapist about your situation. Sometimes, an outside perspective can help you see things more clearly and give you the strength to make the right decision for yourself.

5. Be Strong Enough to Walk Away

The hardest part is letting go, but sometimes, the best thing you can do is remove yourself from a toxic situation. Love should not feel like a battle for attention and respect. If he refuses to communicate, refuses to respect your emotions, and only prioritizes himself, then he is not the right person for you.

Final Thoughts

A real man will never make you feel invisible. He won’t block you as a way to punish you, and he won’t get mad at you just because things aren’t going his way. He will respect your feelings, communicate through issues, and work with you, not against you.

If you find yourself in a relationship where you’re constantly feeling neglected, unheard, or manipulated, ask yourself: Is this really the love I deserve? Because the answer is no. You deserve a love that is patient, kind, and emotionally safe. Don’t settle for anything less.

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Taviii🇨🇦♐️

Hi am Octavia a mom of 4 am inspired writer I write stories ,poems and articles please support me thank you

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  • Rezwanul Haque 10 months ago

    Nicely written.

  • Alex H Mittelman 10 months ago

    Nobody should control you! Great work!

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